First names tell it all.

[micky]

Do you only know the first name of the clerk or waiter/ress who is waiting on you. Now you can still know whether to be rude and insulting. Check out:

[invalid unparseable]

Guilty of omission but after all it is the New York Times. List I saw had Karen's voting for Biden. Of course, today, crass, racist women are called Karen's.

[Dean Hoffman]

It's either ma'am or miss. Deciding which can be a problem. Calling any man "sir" is ok after he's past his teens. Calling a young woman ma'am might offend them.