funeral arrangements ( DIY) possibly off topic

[charles]

I do wonder if you've got this all wrong. Perhaps he doesn't realise that he will be able to afford a funeral for you. He may be seriously worried about the cost of a "traditional" funeral.

[John Rumm]

If you already have a family plot, then there is a fair chance it is held "in perpetuity" if it was bought long enough ago. However sometimes someone needs to remind the administrators of that IME!

Local churchyards often come under different jurisdictions from local cemeteries. So it is worth finding out who is actually responsible for the plot.

(when burying one of SWMBO's aunts, it turned out that what was thought to be a churchyard was actually split with part being administered by the church, and part administered by the local council. Administration of the cemetery part had passed to a new admin at the local council who had a bit of a reputation with the local funeral directors as being a bit stroppy! Sure enough when I enquired they demanded payment and did not countenance the suggestion that it was a fully owned and paid for plot. Fortunately Aunt had kept the original guide book for the plot, that made no mention of a lease, and was worded in a way that implied ownership. So I scanned that and sent it to her, and she conceded (after some internal investigation) that some plots were indeed sold, and they might have to update their guidance and procedures! (which makes me wonder how many others had to pay rent on plots they already owned)

[Tim Lamb]

Alternatively, plan to outlive the bastard?

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[SH]

this begs the question of why are you living with someone you do not trust?

[The Natural Philosopher]

I think this is verging on fantasy. A death involves many agencies - possibly police, ambulance, social services..it's quite hard to keep them apart.

For example unless you forge signatures you cant access a dead person's account that easily, and if you do, its criminal .

That is unless something is clearly passed on to you by the will, or by common law, grabbing it is theft.

[The Natural Philosopher]

whereas inside of cities they are universally shark like

[The Natural Philosopher]

Good for you!

[Peter Johnson]

The only place where I have found that, in more than 100 churchyards and cemeteries visited, is at the Kensal Green Roman Catholic Cemetery in north London. There, they levelled part of the site, tipped about a yard depth of earth over the top and started burials again. Don't know what they did with the original memorials. In a good number of cemeteries/churchards I often think that the interred woulf be horrified if they knew how their graves were neglected. Even a bequest for maintenance is no guarantee. £100 left in 1910, Shirehampton, Bristol, would not have lasted very long.

[Peter Johnson]

That's not as straightforward as he might think. It has to be done by agreement of the deceased, when they are still alive, obvs, completing an agreement with the chosen research establishment, and they don't take all bodies on offer, those who have died from cancer, for example. (I have done this in respect of my own corpse.)

[Clive Arthur]

Yes, and for telling medics you're diabetic or allergic and so on.

You could simply use the title of Christopher Fry's 1948 play :-)

[GB]

I'm not talking about raiding the bank.

When Mother in Law died, she did so at home. The doctor issued a death certificate. There may have been two doctors involved, as this was post-Shipley. The coroner wasn't interested.

The funeral was arranged by my BIL, and the only document he was asked to show was the death certificate. She was actually buried less than 24 hours after she died, because that suited BIL.

As it happens, BIL was one of the executors, but he was never required to prove it.

I really can't see what would stop the OP's husband from doing likewise, except he'd choose a cheap cremation. Where's the fantasy?

[GB]

:)

[Robin]

I have no idea why you claim it is "verging on fantasy". Nothing in the normal process after a death requires enquiries into the existence of a will before the funeral. If Hubby is not the executor he could, if asked, deny knowledge of any will. He then stand as clearly first in line in the putative intestacy and not just able to arrange the disposal of the body but responsible for doing so. What happens later when the executor learns of the death is another matter. But AFAIK Hubby would have committed no criminal offence. And who would have standing to sue him and for what?

[GB]

I was perplexed by the reference to social services. They have their work cut out caring for the living.

[Jock]

Certainly not going to be legally enforceable and may see the whole will binned.

[Jock]

Trouble is that a relo may die or be killed first.

Not sure what happens if the solicitor retires or goes broke.

[Jock]

He can always claim she changed her mind and hadn't gotten around to having the tattoo changed because the original tattoo was very unpleasant when it was done.

[Jock]

I don't.

But it can still take quite a while before a bank or solicitor finds out about a death, by which time the body has been cremated.

But her hubby may well decide to go for the cheaper cremation, pay for that out of his own money given that he knows that her estate will be his eventually.

But it wouldn't be grabbing anyting to pay for the cremation knowing that you will end up with more when the estate settles.

[Harry Bloomfield Esq]

GB used his keyboard to write :

They are now pushing F2F and limiting the issue of phone appointments.

[GB]

That's good to know.