Stepmother.. but he never lived with her as he was already 18 when his parents divorced. He stayed with his real mother married.
Let me put it another way...
Stepmom had already left him twice for some old flame in Florida and he took her back because the other guy kicked her out as she has no money. He took care of her completely. Cooked, cleaned, did all the chores, etc. When he found out about his cancer, she didn't want to deal with him. They got asked to leave the nursing home and had to do hospice at home and she complained every day.
While I was present, she would run out for hours to do errands? Come home with cases of ice cream bars, 1 pound cans of propane (for the tiny heater she put next to him because she turned off the main heat) and other assorted junk, when money was tight. She fed him her medications (and other drugs) even tho he kept refusing. She fed him canned soup waterd down, 1 per day and juice. She made no effort to provide him real nutrition. I offered to prepare and give him real food that he could keep down and give him nutrients and she became angry with me and refused to allow me come back to help.
That shed any more light on the matter?
I don't blame you. I would too.
My husband didn't have a great relationship with his father after and because of the divorce. I encouraged my husband to try but it's hard to do when your calls are not returned.
Then one month his father started calling every week and stopping by randomly saysing he was in the area. For a few short months their relationship improved tremendously. I told my husband something was wrong. People don't change without reason.
In september of that year Dad went to have his bladder checked and the xray showed cancer spread to his lungs, stomach andother organs. Further xrays showed it reasched his brain. Chemo was so hard it took almost 70 punds off him in 4 months and he was under 200 to start.
We visted him every day at the hospital nursing home. We all did because that's what family should do.
I'm sorry if I have babbled too long or explained too much but it disturbes me greatly when people blatantly get away with chit by controlling things they should never be in control of, ergo stepmom. Sounds like you unfortunately understand first hand and I am sorry for that. No one should have to deal with the greedy, petty selfish crap, especially when it involves life and death. Life is too short.
`Casper