damn, I thought this was going to be a fun subject, like spanking semi-clad
For some parents, the first response to misbehaving kids is a threat of
physical punishment, followed shortly thereafter by the actual deed. Do you
think this is something all parents should consider, or is it possible that
some parents are more capable of using words to get kids to understand the
Terminology is quite slippery on this subject.
Apparantly, the study cited in the first post of this
thread, relied upon asking parents to describe what
they had done to their children.
Also, people generally discussing this subject have
rose-coloured glasses on regarding either their own
actions, or the actions of others.
When I was growing up, my family used the term,
"spanking" to describe behaviour like beating a child
unconscious, for fun.
OTOH, I have encountered people who interpret
legitimate reference to "abuse" as merely indicating a
little hand-swat on the bum, when the child had
misbehaved. ("You're so immature for failing to feel
As long as "spanking" isn't really violence (in your
mind), then it is reasonable for an employer who is
feeling stressed-out, to pull the nearest employee's
pants down, apply a belt until the little brat is
barely even capable of crawling away. After all, that
is a "spanking," in my experience, and thus isn't
really "violence," in your mind. So nothing bad
happening at all. A perfectly legitimate way for an
authoriTAH figure to remind everyone who's boss.
Wanna volunteer for some "not"-violence?
Get Credit Where Credit Is Due
And you never said a thing? At the very least I would have been
knocking on the door of the school counselor.
I had a neighbor who was in the habit of kicking his dogs, I called
the cops.He stopped. I would do the same for a child. I had a neighbor
who left her 8 year old home alone, I called the cops. She came
pounding on my door threatening to have me taken care of. Oh well.If I
thought there was abuse of any kind I would report it to someone. You
call the cops a few times when he is screaming and he would start
thinking. Cops don't like parents who abuse their children, neither do
Peace to you, Dave
Believe me, it was taken care of. But, it had been going on for years before
we moved to the street. The damage was done. The kids are 18-22 now, and in
therapy. The oldest has her own kids. Guess how she behaves toward them. The
exact same way.
Good. I assume you have the usual parental nightmares about what could
happen to a kid in a normal, well-maintained house, regardless of how
careful you are. Start writing them down. You'll have your answer.
The reason for my question is, I stayed home alone at about the age of
7 or so, it was customary where I grew up. Nothing terribly bad
happened and it was not particularly challenging.
The only thing that I did that was wrong was melting a lot of lead
(maybe at age 11 or so), I enjoyed lead casting and my mom would not
allow me to do it (quite wisely). So I did it when no one was
home. That was not good for me, I suppose.
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