Re: OT - Spanking...Should You or Shouldn't You?

[Doug Kanter]

Do you have kids?

[Ignoramus1487]

Yes, one. 4.5 yo.

i

[wood]

Doug, when I was kid, there was a boy down the street whose dad was a drunk. Every time he would put one on he would come home and beat that kid bloody. I mean bad. He used belts, boards, whatever was handy. This was in the late 50's and the police would do nothing. I wonder what happened to him. That image has stuck with me all these years. It was ugly. That more then my parents example (it was good) influenced how I disciplined my kids.I tried to always put their welfare first and never let anger motivate my discipline.

[Doug Kanter]

Good. I assume you have the usual parental nightmares about what could happen to a kid in a normal, well-maintained house, regardless of how careful you are. Start writing them down. You'll have your answer.

[Ignoramus1487]

The reason for my question is, I stayed home alone at about the age of

7 or so, it was customary where I grew up. Nothing terribly bad happened and it was not particularly challenging.

The only thing that I did that was wrong was melting a lot of lead (maybe at age 11 or so), I enjoyed lead casting and my mom would not allow me to do it (quite wisely). So I did it when no one was home. That was not good for me, I suppose.

i

[wood]

You are joking, I suppose.

[J T]

Mon, Nov 21, 2005, 10:35am (EST-3) too_many [e-mail] (Too_Many_Tools) did crosspost his crap: I am interested in hearing your opinion on this subject.

Crossposting dorky little troll. Should have figured from the start.

JOAT Just pretend I'm not here. That's what I'm doing.

[Ignoramus1487]

No, I am not joking.

i

[SteveB]

Hell, I used to get out my dad's mercury and play with it. He had about four fluid ounces.

Nothing bad happened, luckily luckily luckily luckily (slap!)

sorry

Steve, and it is a true story.

[Chuck Sherwood]

The really sad part is that the mother continued to let it happen. Why didn't she have the courage to stop the father?

chuck

[Jeff McCann]

Why wasn't she prosecuted as an accessory to capital sexual assault, or something similar? She apparently failed to take steps necessary to protect her daughter from serious harm.

Jeff

[Ignoramus1487]

That probably was before laws about child abuse/neglect took present shape.

i

[Scott Lurndal]

When I was 11 I'd buy KNO3 and sulfer by the lb from the local druggist. In those days, the pharmacist had barrels of each in the basement. Add a little charcoal, voila!

Got my first rifle about then too.

Times sure have changed.

[Ignoramus1487]

You can still buy that stuff by the pound.

Got my first rifle about then too.

[John Husvar]

There was very little in the way of child abuse/neglect protection when and where I grew up. Laws existed, but were often laxly enforced.

Hell, when my parents were trying to get a commission-paid trucking terminal off the ground, I practically raised my sister. We were ten years apart. My mother could check in several times a day because they built the first office in the garage beside the house, but my baby sister was my responsibility between times. (They did make sure I got some breaks to go out and just be a kid.)

Nowadays, that would be child neglect, I suppose. It didn't hurt me overmuch and my sister and I are very close ~40 years later. There wasn't much resentment. We just did what had to be done to get out of poverty after my dad got hurt and couldn't drive his truck any longer.

Must have worked. After a few years all the back bills were paid, we owned our own house, and my dad's cars were Cadillacs when Cadillac was still a respected make. :)

[Jeff McCann]

Laws against rape and accessory to rape have been around for hundreds of years, dating at least from English Common Law.

Jeff

[Ignoramus1487]

It would not be, I suppose, if you were a responsible young individual above age when babysitting is allowed.

i

[tg]

>>>>>>>> Spanking children fuels aggression, anxiety By Megan Rauscher

correct sir I applaud your intuition.

[Antipodean Bucket Farmer]

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Would you settle for spanking Tim May?

[Deborah Kelly]

ok how small of a kid are we talking about? or is it how big of a person is doing the spanking? 5 times their weight? must be a really big guy or really small kid....

Deborah