Hi,
My siblings and I have been taking it in turns to look after our mum after she had a nasty fall recently. We're not expecting her to be up and about for another 12 weeks. Anyway, we siblings share our duties with our dad on a roughly equal basis. But something's definitely not right with the situation. We haven't noticed anything wrong mentally with mum and she's pretty easy to look after and keep an eye on. However, dad swears blind that she's got dementia and half the time doesn't know which day of the week it is and even who *he* is much of the time. But as I say, these disturbing reports only come from him; the rest of the family have not noticed anything amiss. We're wondering whether it could be *him* who has in fact got dementia, not her. He certainly has a terrible memory lately and hasn't been entirely well mentally for the last 2 years what with memory problems and depression associated with having to look after her whereas formerly they'd both been very active people (they're both 76). Can anyone confirm our suspicions from own personal experience of similar circumstances? Is it feasible he could be unjustly blaming her for his own severe memory shortcomings?
THanks.