OT: Dementia

Yes, I had multiple 3am phone calls from a family member who couldn't understand why I was concerned at them phoning.

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Chris Bartram
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Feeding the cat mince pies, or chocolate bars.

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Chris Bartram

FIL fortunately was only really bad for a year till he went aged 95. He was lucky enough to live amongst a community who kept an eye on him between our twice daily welfare visits and the management of the pub/cafe where for years he had gone in for breakfast were understanding when he turned up in the evening for his morning eggs on toast at 9 pm and gave us a ring so we could take him home. Till he was 92 he was completely independent and caught a bus 10 miles to a market town for a weekly shop but after that we took him in on the Tuesday. First realised that something was up when he phoned at 3am on a Sunday complaining we hadn?t picked him up yet. Things soon got worse as though he accepted that it was his memory that was making mistakes he would forget and ring again for various things multiple times. We had just got to the point of having to make the decision that he could no longer live independently when the evening after one of the shopping trips he complained of a chest pain and was admitted to hospital for the first time in his life, woke up for breakfast ,ate it then said he was tired and went to sleep and died peacefully. I think we had it a lot easier than some.

GH

Reply to
Marland

Peter gave the response you wanted. Had someone else said "No, quite unlikely" would you have accepted that?

Reply to
Richard

Before the days of satnav...

Reply to
The Natural Philosopher

I f****ng did.

Bill

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Bill Wright

At the PPG meeting for the GP practice we suggested that there should be a notice in each waiting room saying which waiting room it was, and a clock. At the first the practice wasn't keen on the clock because they said people would get more impatient, but in the end the installed clocks.

Bill

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Bill Wright

The 'yes' was qualified. Which is symptomatic of answers to questions on dementia. There are no straight answers, something you will come to understand if/when the suspected dementia(s) develop(s).

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F

It isn't an on off condition. But there do seem to be early signs common to most. Not knowing the time or date etc (in a big way) being one of them. Or so it would seem with my relatives and friends suffering from it.

Incidentally, when it becomes extreme, my mother's specialist gave some hope. He said is was possible she was quite contented in her own little world. Unlike those around her doing the suffering for her.

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Dave Plowman (News)

Curious. According to my newsreader, this is your very first f****ng post on the subject!

Reply to
Chris

Of course. I only wanted a straightforward, truthful answer to a straight question. Seems that's too much to ask here. :(

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Chris

In message <q080fl$ler$ snipped-for-privacy@dont-email.me, Chris snipped-for-privacy@noreply.com writes

Bills of a feather have to stick together. Here is the header from Bill's post

Newsgroups: uk.d-i-y Subject: Re: OT: Dementia From: Bill Wright snipped-for-privacy@f2s.com Date: 27 December 2018 17:07:27

Reply to
Bill

Exactly my point. It varies from day-to-day, hour-to-hour, with a general downward trend over time.

Increasing confusion with time and then, later, not understanding he was speaking to an answer machine on the phone ('excuse me, but I would like to speak to my son'), was what clinched it for me with my father.

My aunt had a stroke which made one side of her all but useless. Her mind was pin sharp. She eventually refused food to remove herself from the situation.

My father died with dementia totally unaware of what was happening.

I believe I know who had the less difficult exit.

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F

Err, that's how indians in Fiji make tea. The whole lot, water, tea and powdered milk is boiled up in, and poured from the kettle.

Then they add about 20 heaped spoons of brown sugar per cup.

Reply to
Andrew

Problem is that there isnt one with dementia. Its quite difficult to diagnose when its not too bad.

You got plenty of straightforward, truthful answers. Your problem is that there is no nice tidy simple way to work out if someone has dementia or is just a bit quirky/eccentric. Even with changes over time, its can just be that the individual no longer has to give a damn what others think and are free to do what they like.

Clearly if they keep losing track of what time of day it is, they have a problem, but the dementia can be quite advanced by then.

My dad had it but hid it quite well. It was only when I had stayed with him for a couple of weeks and he managed to get lost going to the other side of a major city that he had done plenty of times before that it became obvious that he had a problem and that did explain what was otherwise just quirks in the way he did things till then.

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Tim J

What if the "straightforward, truthful answer" you got isn't 100% accurate?

Really nice of you to spit all over those who bothered to offer input. HAND

Reply to
Richard

Oh dear, how embarrassing! Sorry Bills! Not quite sure what went wrong there; my bad.

Reply to
Chris

Maybe you forgot you had read it ,coupled with the unfriendly tone of your subsequent postings may be the dementia isn?t just affecting your parents. It can affect people much younger than many think.

GH

Reply to
Marland

In an electric kettle?

Owain

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spuorgelgoog

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