I agree with the above, but that's isn't what you posted:
"If so, that is _NOT_ a water seal; the problem if it is leaking there isn't the nut/washer, it's that you either don't have enough plumbers putty to make a full seal or the drain flange isn't seating in the bowl opening properly or it's got a bend or something wrong with it or there's an imperfection in the bowl itself. "
You implied that it can't leak below the bowl, except for a problem with the plumber's putty sealing at the flange where the top of the drain meets the sink. The rubber seal just above the nut *is a water seal* and if that seal is bad, it will leak. In his case, the seal isn't bad, it's that the threads extend too far, so they go past the seal.
I don't know how I can make it any clearer. There are threads on the drain pipe, yes? There is a rubber seal between the nut and the bottom of the sink. There is water present above that rubber seal. If the drain pipe has threads that extend up the pipe too far, then when the nut is tight, there will be some threads protruding beyond the rubber seal, into the area between the inner sink surface and the outer sink surface, where there is water. Water will follow the threads and leak out. His drain is meant for a sink that is thicker, where the threads will not extend out of the rubber seal when it's tightened up.
This is confirmed by his saying that putting silicone on the threads before assembly solved it. That isn't the best solution, I would have gotten the correct drain part.