Lets see. They don't care about people, and don't
communicate with hired help.
So, the doctors don't care what you have wrong, and don't
tell the pharmacist what to dispense. Sounds like a
combination from hell.
I'd never had a problem with a shoe, so I once bought really cheap
sneakers at k-mart a week or two before I went on a 3-week foreign
vacation that grew into 5 weeks.
I walked almost all day every day, and every day I got blisters. I
would have to wear hiking boots the next day, but they were the wrong
size too, bought one day before I left, so I got more blisters.
Thankfully, in different places, so all the blisters had a day to
heal. None popped.
The sneakers though also smelled terrible when they were off. No other
shoe had ever done that. But I didnt' want to take the time to go
I bought more sneakers at K-mart just last month but haven't worn them
enough to know if there are problems. They look nice and were cheap.
I really can't believe they'll smell bad like those others did. It's
wasn't foot smell, it was something in the sneakers.
I generally find cheaper ones too, but when I was still in the Navy and
needed to jog regular, there is a difference in a good set of running shoes
and cheap stuff. Also, we walk *alot* (up to 6 miles a day back in Japan)
and the 'cheap ones' are actually more expensive as they wear out too fast
under conditions like that. ROI factor low under heavy use.
Don now uses special orthopedic ones due to a combination of a long ago
broken ankle that never healed quite right, and arthritis. I got him a new
set 7 months ago for 200$. He walks about 4 miles a day now (plus regular
walking about the house etc) and I expect these will last about 2 years. A
25$ pair would simply not work for his needs and would last probably 2
months before the heels wore out.
The Dr. Laura response, most likely. That the two doctors
are neglecting the most important job of all, that is
raising their own kids. By selfishly serving their own needs
for power, fame, etc, the doctors are damaging their own
kids. I'd have to guess Dr. Laura would suggest to walk away
from these selfish doctors, and maybe she'd suggest to
mention that to all the other known babysitter girls.
Write it off as an expensive (at her income level) life lesson, and
manage to always have a previous commitment if they want to hire her
again. (They probably won't, if they had words over the shoes already.)
Don't say a word to the people who referred her- she doesn't want a
reputation as a difficult-to-please sitter. And if she sits at any other
houses with puppies, put the shoes in the coat closet and close the
door. Can't blame the dog- that is how dogs investigate interesting new
smells. (Hmm- this is interesting. Wonder if it is food? 3 categories
for dogs- stuff that can be eaten, stuff that can be humped, and stuff
that needs marking.)
There is no need to pretend like that. And it's not good for those
who hired her. They should learn that there are a) consequences to
their failure to inform her about the dog chewing, b) consequences to
their chinciness in not paying.
Good baby sitters are hard to get, and they may well call her again.
I would say, "Since you knew the dog wa a chewer, unlike the vast
majority of adult dogs, you should have warned me, and when you
didn't, you should have taken responsibilty for the damages. If
you'll pay for the shoes, (or pay half**), I'll help you out.
When they agree, they should also agree to pay for the shoes before
she starts sitting the next time. If it's not hard, drop by in
advance. Otherwise, tell them in advance, "I have a contract now for
my clients to sign". This doesn't mean she insists all the clients
sign the contract, but if that seems excessively evasive, make it "for
you to sign". They can still pay for the sneakers when she gets
there, and she can cross out an initial where she crosses out that
debt. Include in the rest of the contract a typical baby sitting
contract. I'll bet you can find one on the net, or an adult can got
to a commercial baby sitting service and get a copy of the contract
they use. Say your husband wants to look it over first, but dont'
imply he's a lawyer. You don't want to give the baby sitting company
It should mention salary, what happens if they don't come home on
time, and that she's not liable for what the dog does
Then sit for them that time or two more times. After that she's free
I sort of like splitting the cost of the shoes. They should have
warned her and nothing would have happened, but a lot of people do
things they shouldn't and
Being a doctor means nothing regarding being responsible or honest or
anything. They don't check for niceness when you apply to med
school, they don't grade on niceness, and patients are making a
mistake if they choose their doctors on niceness*** although
admittedly, it's hard to judge them on competence. Even my brother,
who is a doctor, said he didn't know who in the same hospital was
good, only who had been sued.
***Like the people who throw their money away at Cancer Centers of
America, where all they sell is hope and niceness, and only claim to
have cured one person, though even that one they're vague about.
**I sort of like the paying half, not because she doesn't deserve all
of it, but because there are people who do the wrong thing but
sincerely think they did the right thing. Of course there are those
who have absurd opinions about what is right, or who just don't care
whom they cheat. But we don't know enough about these people yet.
Sometimes on tv court shows, when I don't think it's clear who's right
or who's telling the truth, I think the judge should just split it,
but that doesn't seem be what is done in America or most of the world.
Plus it's not polite to gossip about these people. If they keep
losing babysitters, their friends may figure it out.
They are total and complete jerks. It may hurt your girl financially (in
the short term), but she has to dump them. She should not accept shoddy
treatment. If she does, it will get worse, not better over time.
They are doctors, you say? Pity their patients.
We have a 12-year old daughter (nearly 13!). She no longer has a
babysitter, but over the course of the last 12 years we've been through
a number of babysitters from great to horrible. And through being in the
babysitter loop, we've also had our (in)direct experiences with some
very seriously wacko parents.
What we've learned is that wacko parents will not suddenly repair
themselves, but will remain wacko forever. And they'll whack the
babysitter in the process.
Babysitters can, and should, "fire" their worst customers. The wackos
are NOT looking out for her, but for themselves.
Frankly, such bad customer behavior baffles me. Babysitting is a service
industry. The quality of the service is completely dependent -- from
minute to minute -- on the mood and motivation of the babysitter. We
went out of our way to pay MORE than required. We'd round /up/ billable
care hours, give gifts on special occasions, take the little one back
early if we were home early, look after the babysitter's house when they
were on vacation, etc. All so as to ensure the best care we could get
from the provider of the moment. That some parents won't do that is
very, very puzzling.
What's more important? $75 for chewed-up shoes, or your child's care?
Think about the mind that would choose the former.
*I'd say that family just lost a very competent babysitter. Tell your
daughter to drop the account and chalk it up to experience. Let them get
someone else. If they ask she should tell them why. She should also warn
other babysitters of her experience.
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