Well last night was a rough night. My inspiration for getting in to
woodworking was tragically killed yesterday in a construction
accident. I got the news just before supper and at the time I was fine
but I didn't sleep last night.
I just came back from the site to see what happened. If anyone out
there that is in residential construction trade can attest, fall
arresters are not highly regarded as the most comfortable things to
wear but can save lives. I became more concerned last year after he
was diagnosed with Alzheimer's. He didn't like them. In fact after 44
years in construction, he felt that it was a hindrance. I asked him
why, but all he could say is "I know my way around a roof".
Well until yesterday. He slipped on the scaffolding and fell 30
feet. I visited with the ambulance workers since I know one of them
that was there. In all estimation, he was dead when he hit the ground.
Why am I writing this. Because he was like many others out there.
He thought that he was safe with just his skills. And I urge anyone
that thinks that this couldn't happen to them, think again. He had 44
years experience and in one second it is all gone. He was going to
retire this year as the demand for housing has dropped and there was
no one interested in taking over his company.
Sadly I will never get to show him my first completely designed and
built pieces of furniture. I just finished them 2 weeks ago. I always
felt that he didn't think I was ever capable of it but I just was
never interested in home building. He gave up on trying to teach me.
These pieces were to show him that I was paying attention. I did learn
I am very sorry for your loss. My mother passed away last year. I
found out while I was out in the field on my job. I understand what
you're going through. Hopefully your father didn't suffer and passed
quickly. Thanks for sharing the safety information so that perhaps
others can benefit from this tragedy. Hold on to your fond memories as
they will help to see you through some trying times.
Many people say: "I know how you must feel."
Well, I don't
Both my parents are still alive at 88 years old.
I have a feeling I will know what you're feeling all too soon.
Keep the good memories, the bad ones are a waste of time.
My most heartfelt condolences. Apparently it was mercifully fast. Take
consolation in your best memories, and cherish them. Sharing those
memories is good, as you found out.
Translated from the Dutch:
Shared joy is twice the joy
Shared sorrow is half the sorrow.
It's really not "nice" to say it - but with alzheimers already
diagnosed, the fast end will likely be easier to take, for everyone
involved, than a long, lingering deterioration, with Dad still being
"there", but not quite really being either "dad" OR "there".
Just too bad it had to happen, just like it's too bad he had to suffer
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I think it is nice not to have to suffer from mental disintegration. I
certainly didn't like it when Dad was sitting in the hospital chair
chewing newspaper, becaue "it is the antidote to the posin the Germans
are giving me".
We need to be clearminded (= not too sentimetal, but almost like
ruthless) to think of "nice" ways to quit this life. These things are
far from easy, and there are always questions of in hindsight I/we could
have done differently.
In the aggregate, it is best to do a lot of talking amongst the family
members and making decisions that are well thought out, not at the spur
of the moment, but agreed upon in as much consensus as possible. The
welfare (mental as well as physical) of the affected family member is
what should count.
(I had minor surgery and am taking pain medications, so please excuse
ramblings that you might not agree with)
Thanks for sharing Allen. I cannot agree more, you simply cannot be carful
Have faith that he is seeing your work now and will be proud.
It is tough loosing a parent, I lost my mother last night too.
I lost my father very suddenly when I was 21.
Hard as it is for those of us, like yourself, left behind, at least
your dad went quickly and apparently didn't suffer.
Time will be your friend.
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