I originally sent this to Dave Leader, but since some of you folks are following my wife's plight, I'm also posting it here:
She had more than one duct coming out of her gallbladder, and the surgeon didn't notice this until after he had yanked it away from her bile duct. He tore a gaping hole in her bile duct, so he had to open her up and go in to clean up the mess. She has a shunt in the bile duct and a bag on her side. It's supposed to form a... fistula? eventually, and then they'll yank the tube out, about six weeks from now.
She's alive. She's not doing very well. He says she will recover completely, and her prognosis is excellent. Two to five days in the hospital, depending on how she does. It's hard to judge with her still feeling the aftereffects of the anaesthesia, so I'm trying to remain optimistic. However, if I were a betting man, I'd put my money on the long side of the stay. She really looks terrible, and I feel like it's something of a miracle that I'm not making funeral arrangements. Just the vibe. I think they almost lost her.
Or maybe the guy feels guilty because he screwed up. I don't know. Something just isn't quite right with the mood surrounding her. There's too much tension, and a feeling of things not said. A heaviness, a charge in the air, a, well, foreboding. The surgeon seemed genuinely relieved when I took the news without freaking out. Maybe all I felt was his dread that I was going to crawl up his ass and start yelling at him and screaming about malpractice. Or maybe she came as close to returning her constituent elements to dirt as it feels like from the mood in the room.
I'll be OK, Dave. The hardest part so far has been being strong for them, so they don't see how scared I am for their mother.
This is definitely not the kind of outcome I was expecting, or I would have been more worried yesterday. I didn't get worried until she had been in the OR for two, then three, then four hours for a 45 minute procedure. On the bright side, it wouldn't have done me any good to be worried sooner, and it isn't doing me any good to be worried now either. It's out of my hands. There's absolutely nothing I can do here, so I have to stand back and let the professionals do their job.