A few weeks ago, I posted that my Dad was dying. The posts and email from
this NG was not only comforting, but also provided a great sense of sharing.
Dad spent the last few days in and out of "it"...mostly out.. He had no
pain and that was our main concern. I am making a box for his ashes. Here
in New Zealand, we have a sacred tree called "Totara". Looks like Padauk
but is VERY rot resistant. I scrounged some from our old house. I think
he'd like it...
Again, thank you for the posts and email...they will not be soon forgotten.
Rose Cottage Woodworks
John & Patsy,
My condolences to you and your family.
When my father passed away, we placed in his casket with him several items.
Don't know if that is appropriate for you in a box of your Dad's ashes, but
maybe. Perhaps you could get fancy and include a separate drawer, or attach
items to the outside. I'm sure you can come up with small items that have
meaning for your Dad. We included his favorite hammer and tape measure and
most importantly ;^) a bottle of beer. That tape measure was always about
his belt while he was alive, and well worn because of it. It was fitting
for us that he has these items with him forever. Of course there are many
of his tools that remain with us. Everytime I use one of his tools, I
think of him.
I lost my dad about 4 years ago. The pain will get easier to bear with time.
Prayer and faith helped me a lot. I still want to call him from time to time
and catch myself dialing the phone. My prayers are with you and I hope
healing comes quickly for you.
I probably wasn't one who reponded earlier but I will now. I'm very sorry for
your loss. My father is getting on up there in years and I know he isn't going
to last forever; yet he has always been there for me. I can't imagine what it
must feel like to realize he's no longer there. You have my complete sympathy.
I know from a near death experience that the actual passing from life to death
is a painless, actually quite comfortable, thing. I hope that gives you some
I didn't see your original post, John. Condolences to you and your family.
I use some of my late father's tools daily. He died in 1999, and he had
inherited tools from his father, grandfather, and brother. Every time I
pick one up, I feel a sort of 'responsibility' not to muck up the joint, or
the cut, or whatever. I still do, of course, but then Dad did too.
I'm sorry for your loss. I lost my father in 1987, and still think of him
most days. I'm sure you'll have many good memories.
My father wasn't a woodworker as such, but an all-around DIY handyman "Mr.
Fixit" type. He had been a car mechanic for a large part of his working
life, so had accumulated quite a collection of both automotive & "happy
homeowner" tools. I inherited them, and ended up with MANY duplicates, as
I had already acquired my own collection of such tools. When I began to
thin out my collection of tools, I was pleased that, when given a choice, my
sons usually preferred to take the tools that had been used by my father,
rather than my newer ones!
Condolences to you and your family, John. Sounds like your dad left a
great legacy in you.
My dad passed in 1987, just a few months after his first grandson was
born, and there's not a day doesn't go by that I don't think of him,
especially when I'm in the shop. He never got to know his grandson as a
young man, but I think he'd be proud to see his tools being used by the
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