"WOW what a thread for such a little question!!!!
Mike G is right about the sand paper, I have never noticed any real problems Myself with it, but it is a possible. Now on your finish, when you mixed the poly with the thinner did you spill any thinner on the wood? did you by some chance wash your hands with soap before you applied the finish? When did you last wax you cast-iron? Did any contact glues, like sticker or label glue get on the surface of the table before applying finish? Any of these and a few dozen other items getting on the bare wood could cause the finish not to stick. Did you sand it to fine to allow the finish to grip the wood. Was the wood cold when you applied the finish? All of these are long shots but might lead you to an answer on the problem. Lemon or Citrus oil used to be death to Deft poly finish even after it had cured for a year or two, not so much of a problem now but think back and see if you can find the problem and good luck with the refinish.