An option could have been to bring the infant to the fire department and abandon it but that wasn't done either. What don't you understand? They were and are in violation of the rules. If you don't like the rules, don't move into an adult community. If you're so worried about the child and the grandparents, do them a favor and take the child into your home. That would solve all the problems. The grandparents could continue to live in an adult home and the child could live with a juvenile father in his home.