What's with all the hats (men) that I see in restaurants? Where did these
people learn their manners? It doesn't surprise me to see this on a 35 and
under age gent. But gees, some of these guys are way older than me (72) a
nd come in with wives that are nicely dressed. Baseball caps? Come on!
I realize that I'm old fashioned (still stand up when a lady approaches or
leaves a table, or enters a room) but I'm convinced that these very same ge
ezers would not have worn a hat indoors 30 years ago, but they do today. W
hat has happened?
Change is just change, not necessarily an improvement. I'm old
fashioned too and I'd never wear a hat at the table. IMO, it looks ill
I also rarely wear a ball cap. Only in the rain. In the sun I'll wear a
Panama hat and in the winter a Driving Cap.
Coupled with that is the ability to speak and not use curse words. My
parents have never heard me use the F word, but today, young people use
it in most every sentence. Women too. Yeah, it is just a word, but I
still think it uncouth in normal conversation. A well placed curse is
good punctuation, but should ber used on rare occasions whee it has real
When I was 5 or 6, a couple of times I mentioned sweating to my father.
He snapped back, "Perspire! Animals sweat! People perspire!"
I don't know what animals except horses, sweat. There had been horses
on the streets when he'd been my age. I guess calling a person sweaty
was like calling the person a horse.
Profane words show disrespect for the listener. It's a matter of
consensus, which depends on time and place. In the US, "ass" is no
longer profane. The current UK list isn't quite the same as the US list.
Synonyms for profanity are perfectly acceptable.
When my niece was growing up, her parents, who considered themselves
quite educated, used profanity on her and on each other in her presence.
That disgusted me. It amounted to saying, "I win because I disrespect
you." It certainly wasn't necessary to use profanity on her. In case of
an important difference of opinion about what she should or shouldn't
do, I could win by my endless enthusiasm for arguing, like Sergeant
Carter convincing Gomer Pyle.
Once when she was 12, I found her watching TV more than an hour after
her bedtime because her parents weren't paying attention. I reminded
her. She replied with the F word. I'd never heard her use profanity
before. I didn't make an issue of it. She'd have to decide whether to
follow her parents' example. I never again heard her use profanity.
Profanity isn't profane in the Marines because voicing disrespect isn't
offensive. A friend was a drill instructor at Parris Island during his
12 years in the Marines. He and other drill instructors called their
gunnery sergeant the Deacon because he never used profanity. They were
afraid of him because he didn't need profanity to make a guy feel like
two cents if he'd done something wrong.
Being a horse lover and owner, I'd take that as a compliment!
Hoss (horse) from Bonanza was pretty cool guy too!
As a matter of fact, go ahead and call me an ASS.
I also love donkeys and own one of them too!
Hee Haw! :)
I was thinking along the same lines after reading the above. Styles and
fads will always change but mannerism should never go out of style,
unfortunately, I see it is.
Hats are worn in restaurants, men no longer open doors nor stand up for
women and I seldom hear "no thank you" or "yes please" anymore. I blame
the "ME" society. We live in a selfishly inconsiderate world we're most
people don't give a shit about anyone but themselves. It's such a shame.
Chefs and waiters wear hats. At one time, hats were worn for protection
from sun, cold, rain, and dirt. It seemed unsanitary to wear one at
dinner. That's not a problem with a hat that's obviously clean.
In western movies, cowboys often wore their dirty hats at the table.
That was probably realistic. If the establishment didn't have a
hat-check girl, somebody might walk off with their Stetson while their
back was turned. I don't recall eating at a restaurant with a staff
member to guard hats. Unless there's an empty seat, there may be no
place to put a hat.
A ball cap has little purpose but to shade the eyes. If you're low on
Vitamin A, light will bother your eyes. Vegetables and pills provide
precursors to Vitamin A. The first step to conversion is to eat them
with fats. Doctors have been telling us to avoid fats for 50 years; so
it stands to reason that a lot of people these days would be
uncomfortable without shade for their eyes.
In May of 1958, Marion Morrison attended a bullfight in Nogales. He wore
elevator shoes, a girdle, and a cowboy hat. When the crowd cheered, he
stood and tipped his hat. Then he realized he'd forgotten his wig. The
crowd went wild. In public, never take your hat off.
Ball caps have been boring since the New Era Cap Company standardized
them in 1954. Before that, even players on the same team might wear
individual styles. The great thing about "Field of Dreams" was their
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