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And YES, the address you link to is this yahoo account.
Boy, do I have a neighbor problem....
We have a couple of people like that, too. Shortly after moving in there
was big storm and several very large trees were heavily damaged. We had a
tree company come out and remove them. One of our neighbors had a small boy
who insisted on being too close to the action. The tree people asked us to
move him back. They were cutting huge limbs and lowering them to the ground
with ropes. The kid wouldn't stay back so we went to his house and asked
his mother to come get him. We didn't need the liability. For the last
eight years, she has made it her mission to tell everyone that we don't like
kids and are mean bastards. She is friends with the redneck cop. Her
clique of Stepford wives denies our very existence, turning away when we
pass. When they have gardening questions or need a pant disease diagnosed,
they have no problem sending the husband down for advice. The last time I
suggested that they could get good advise on the Internet or at the county
extension office. The next time I'm going to ask hubby if he will get in
hot water for talking to us.
No thanks. There are NOT attractive people. The ring leader of the
Stepford wives looks like she cuts her own hair using a cereal bowl as a
guide. Husband is a good match of her. That aside, I have a great
relationship that has endured for over 23 years and have no need to seduce
Yup, very similar. Our lovely neighbors turned the folks on the other side
of them against us, since we were the new folks on the block, and they were
all giving us the cold shoulder. But I think they've finally caught on. The
Mrs actually waved when I was walking by recently! But as for the other, I
think the point-of-no-return was crossed at some point and their pride won't
allow them to get back over it. And at this point we don't want anything to
do with them anyway, so a nice barrier of trees and shrubs has been going up
both sides of the fence.
Fences and shrub rows make good neighbors. I think you are right about
saving face. There are neighbors who we have never spoken to personally who
give us the cold shoulder. They would have to admit to their stupidity if
they reversed their position. When we moved here nearly everyone was
friendly and courteous. Now a few people have poisoned the atmosphere.
People come and go so frequently that I hope we can outlast the bad ones.
One thing that I have noticed is that there are more and more single parent
homes. The parents seem to never be home and the kids have little
supervision. There are teens that give you that cold, hard stare with a
look that says they would just as soon kill you as smile. There is no
respect for rules or boundaries. Kids have everything but their parent's
We have one family that has been exceptionally friendly. They are
fundamentalist Christians who have named all their kids after biblical
characters. They do the home schooling thing. They have always been
friendly and send down plates of food when they have family gatherings. Our
elderly neighbors are also quite friendly.
They don't. I live on a corner lot, the main street contains larger
fairly well kept older homes and the side street has some older places
that need a good going over. The house next to us was a rental for a
while, we talked to them just to make sure we had good neighbors (most
of them introduced themselves to us when they moved it). The folks
across the street are heavily involved in the church down the street
and haven't said anything to us when they realized we weren't going to
attend their church. The other folks across the street didn't say much
to us until we had a neighborhood noise problem and needed additional
signatures to get the problem resolved.
On the side street are some older folks who mind their own business
but will stop and yack your ear off if you let them. Really nice
people, we look out for them. One couple lives in her grandmother's
house...they're nice but a bit snotty. They're now trying to sue us
for a piece of land they say her grandmother planted flowers on YEARS
ago (which i mow or weedeat regularly). Across from them is the
redneck...I hate to call the guy that because it's an insult to
rednecks. :) 900sq foot home with 6 people living in it. 5 running
vehicles and 3 in various states of disrepair. He had 3 more until the
city made him clean them up. Nasty, which is why I have a large bamboo
"fence line" running in the back so I don't have to see it. I've tried
to talk to him, all he can talk about is how bad the city is for
making him mow his lawn and keep it semi neat.
The best neighbors I had was were I grew up in Virginia. 7 homes in a
row surrounded by woods or farmed fields. No fences, no boundaries.
We'd play footback in the backyards of 4 homes, no one cared. We asked
for permission which shocked them. If someone was sick the others
would stop by with a meal or something. Lots of mutual respect, we
looked at our actions from what other's might think. When Dad planted
blueberries in the back he planted 2 dozen bushes. I asked why, he
said so everyone could enjoy them. It's still like that there too,
since 1975 only one person moved away. Pretty cool if you ask me. :)
I'm probably the problem neighbor that everyone else is complaining about.
I don't *do* lawns and golfball junipers and hedges like everyone else does
and I keep getting nasty notes from the city, but so far no citations.
I killed all the grass (except in the flowerbeds, darn it) and planted
ground covers and mixed shrub borders of mostly roses with a nice sized
patch of wildflowers that I DO keep weeded. It's just more informal than
formal. I have an old wooden ladder painted blue that I have a climbing rose
growing on, and several ramblers scrambling through trees and lots of sweet
william, coreopsis, verbena and other self seeded "raggedy" plants
intermixed through the whole thing. I do mow the strip of groundcover out
by the road, because even though the maximun height of it was about 8", that
was still too tall to make the city happy, even though they have no
ordinance that states how high "grass" can be. It's a certified Backyard
Wildlife Habitat by the National Wildlife Federation, which doesn't mean
that much, but since I was certified and posted the sign, there haven't
been any more complaints. Yet. I'm just waiting on the city guy to come by
again and tell me my "weeds" are too high. Last time, I asked him which
plants he was talking about, the vinca minor, or the coreopsis tinctoria, or
the coreopsis lancelota, or maybe the verbena tenuisecta, or perhaps the
trifolium repens, or maybe the rudbeckia hirta, or perhaps the verbena
bonariensis. Then I asked him to define exactly what a "weed" was and why
he viewed my flowers as weeds. Haven't seen that guy since, but I've seen
the city truck drive by slowly a time or two. I guess they figure it's not
worth it to try to to take it any further.
Thanks, but I think a few folks on the street would differ with you. ;~(
I'm in the South, in MS and surviving it the best I can. The acres of
heavily fertilized and chemcalized bermuda and boring holly and junipers
with the 2.1 crepe myrtles and limbed up magnolia grandifloras can get to be
hypnotic. One neighbor did plant a weeping cherry surrounded by annuals--in
the lowest spot in the yard with hideous drainage--in Southern clay that any
potter would kill for. It's already showing distress.
But, this is an older subdivision, and full of cantankerous folks who've
been here since it was put in in the 70's and who don't like "different".
Across the busy road at the end of the street is a new subdivision straight
out of the cotton field, and many of the younger homeowners there prefer to
walk ours because of the mature trees and less cookie cutter home styles.
From some of these people, I've actually gotten *compliments* on how the
yard works. One of these days, I'll do a "before and after" series of pics
for a webpage. Still too many projects left to complete to be the "after"
It sounds like a new reality show??? Ingrid
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