On Thursday, April 14, 2016 at 5:36:23 PM UTC-4, Ed Pawlowski wrote:
...but a great teaching moment for the kid.
Adult: "Do you think it would look better without the screws?"
Kid, Option 1: "No"
Adult: "Then you have no eye for aesthetics. Go play in traffic."
Kid, Option 2: "Yes"
Adult: "OK, let's figure out a way to make that happen."
Disclaimer: I do not condone the practice of actually suggesting that
children play in traffic.
On Sunday, April 17, 2016 at 12:14:43 AM UTC-4, Electric Comet wrote:
"Do you think it would look better without the screws?" is a question, not a command. A good teacher takes his cue from both the response and (hopefully)
his understanding of the student's personality.
Some students want to extract as much information from the teacher as
possible, others want to learn on their own. A good teacher (and parent)
recognizes each type of personality and adjusts his teaching methods to fit.
I have 4 kids. (They are all adults now.) #1 and #4 welcome my suggestions
and we build on those suggestions together. #2 welcomes my suggestions and
then expands on them to the n-th degree without any further prompting
from me. #3 simply wants to know the answer to the exact question that
*she* asked. If she wants or needs more information, *she* will ask.
It took me many years to figure out how to deal with #3 because I wanted
to teach. Once I figured what she was looking for, our relationship improved
good baseball managers also have this trait
they get a group of guys and if the manager is good he figures out
how to win with that group of guys
the notion applies to almost any position and parents are sure no
exception but sadly some never figure that out
as a whole i would say humanity is doing better at this than in
On Tuesday, April 19, 2016 at 1:47:51 PM UTC-4, Electric Comet wrote:
Shall I remind you of something you said to me:
"it seems that now if you can get them interested in woodworking you
let them be because that by itself is hard to do let alone being
so bold to tell them how to do it"
my position was clearly stated
scrutiny is good and required but too often and it can backfire
i do not believe in free reign either
it is a fine line to walk
as you said the approach to criticism is different for everyone
posing a question might be a productive approach
nice putting practice green you made anything you would do
different next time
then you could ask
want to hear my opinions
some people insist on imposing themselves into and onto everything
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