OT: Moved the thread about senior care

nailshooter41 · 2010-01-18T18:10:09+00:00

Out of respect for basilisk's thread about his loss, I moved my offtopic thoughts to a new thread.I think it is pertinent information for most of us middle aged guys tobe thinking of, so here is my response to LDosser's question. I wouldhighly advise anyone that will be stuck with sorting out the legaldetails of their parents or loved ones (or maybe not so loved....) tohave a talk with them to make sure these documents are in place.My parents "fibbed" to me about having all of this done, and only hadin their hands exactly what I had completed for them before. Doingall of this with old, tired and sick people makes this task a thousandtimes harder (and much more expensive) than it needs to be.They still have to sign all the documents, and affidavits, so the bigdifference is that they have to understand all the details andramifications of their affairs between illnesses, "down days",doctor's appts., physical and mental therapy, etc. All of it has tobe done with brains that have been affected by cancer and chemo,strokes, diabetes, and the onset of dementia.And now they have to pay to have the documents transported to them bythe attorney for reviews ($$$) and witnessed by a non family member.I think the only ones sicker of this whole process than me is them.Some of these documents go out of usefulness since their is new,preferred legal language. Some need to be replaced, some docs need tobe updated. > A state approved,federally approved, or a form from Quickbooks Will Maker probablywon't do it.For example: The hospital that my folks like has a lot of seniors, soin turn have a lot of senior care doctors. BUT, having been sued bytheir patients enough times, they have their very own set of medicaldirectives. These must be signed and witnessed before every procedure(in addition to the normal hospital disclaimers), and will be on filefor 6 months. After that, new docs must be signed, as the hospitaltold me they aren't in the document archiving business. ...

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Leon 16 years ago

----- Original Message ----- From: Newsgroups: rec.woodworking Sent: Wednesday, January 20, 2010 1:25 AM Subject: Re: Moved the thread about senior care

I have been reminding my sisters that she is 87 and she has smoked most all her life. Decided to give'm up 3 weeks ago. I recall her scaring the living day lights out of me when I was 11 years old when she mentioned that she would rather be dead than to go blind, she was having detatching retna problems in the mid 60's and spending weeks on end in a hospital in Houston when we lived in CC TX. Then with hospital visits she was sure it was her time about 30 years ago and again 20 years ago and again about 10 years ago with a minor stroke.

Fortunately we have a family lawyer that is a very good friend. My sister and BIL worked for him for many years util recently but we stay in touch.

Fortuantely my father is still in relatively good health and gets around pretty darn well on his own considering his age. My mother OTOH has not driven a car that I know of since 1975.

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Larry Jaques 16 years ago

On Tue, 19 Jan 2010 14:13:05 -0600, the infamous Jim in Milwaukee scrawled the following:

Done, files to Jim and Basilisk.

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LDosser 16 years ago

Well, That worked! Got at at 3pm today. C5-6 discectomy and fusion.

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Han 16 years ago

Larry Jaques wrote in news: snipped-for-privacy@4ax.com:

The file was found by google: Search term:"Your Life, Your Choices"

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Han 16 years ago

"Leon" wrote in news:_tWdndKPS607msrWnZ2dnUVZ snipped-for-privacy@giganews.com:

I know, Leon, and I appreciate your saying so. It /WAS/ the right decision.

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Larry Jaques 16 years ago

On Wed, 20 Jan 2010 19:59:46 -0800, the infamous "LDosser" scrawled the following:

Definite suckage! Well, no more yogic headstands for you, boy.

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Larry Jaques 16 years ago

On 21 Jan 2010 11:23:49 GMT, the infamous Han scrawled the following:

from their VA website and the VHA sites.

Now, does anyone think it's horrible, scary, or mean?

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Han 16 years ago

Larry Jaques wrote in news: snipped-for-privacy@4ax.com:

What do you think, Larry? You didn't suddenly become shy, did you ?

I do not think that prolonging breathing is necessarily a good thing, au contraire. I think living is worth while, if it is really living. OTOH, this is a rather personal thing, so if you are willing to pay, do as you wish. Just make sure the person is in favor of what is going to happen to him or her.

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LDosser 16 years ago

That should have been "got out" ...

I guess I can still do a high colonic.

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Larry Jaques 16 years ago

On Thu, 21 Jan 2010 17:41:00 -0800, the infamous "LDosser" scrawled the following:

Oh, I had thought that was merely a Texican accent.

I shudder just thinking about that one. "Get that FIRE HOSE away from me, lady!"

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Larry Jaques 16 years ago

On 22 Jan 2010 01:28:29 GMT, the infamous Han scrawled the following:

I'm only shy in person. My keyboard liberates me, though.

That's precisely why the talk should be had and papers signed stating the person's exact wishes. Note that they're amendable at any time (second-thining your choices in the hospital with tubes in ya) by the person who signed them. What more could a person ask for? OK, EXcluding eternal life. ;)

-- Every day above ground is a Good Day(tm). -----------

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Doug Winterburn 16 years ago

Mine was a C-3,4,5 fusion somewhere around 1961. Being an (American) football star (in my mind) sucked. Fortunately, no more horsepital visits until '05 where I had a 1' colon shortening which was also no fun at all (except it beat the alternative)!

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LDosser 16 years ago

But what a name for a band!

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LDosser 16 years ago

Ouch!

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