You(your friend) screwed up and you are responsible.. the neighbor
states no as he is pissed and will probably stay pissed.... having a
neighbor like you... how can you let your friend continue doing this
cleaning job knowing that the stuff is blowing onto the neighbors
property... did he or you ever look to see what you or he was doing or
did you notice it when the job was finished... a good thing he did not
have to get a bull dozer to do any work around your house.... he or you
would probably get carried away and knock his house down also... if i
was the neighbor i would be pissed also having a neighbor who does not
think...... just keep telling them you are sorry and that you insist
on hiring a professional clean up person to do the job and pay more
attention to what you do around the house.....
just drop it ,and dont loose sleep over it .they may just not want to put
you out and feel its not as big a deal as you feel they do. or they are
trying to make you feel bad ,and if thats the case they arent worth your
if they start acting funny around you, get a nasty dog and let it run around
your place they will forget all about the dirt on there house,while they
focus on the dog.and dont let give you the good neighbor speech,good
neighbors dont make you feal uncomfortable about little mistakes.
Did you tell your neighbor what you wrote in your post here? If so,
and if your neighbor still does not understand, then I don't see what
else you can do. If you haven't, you might try saying to them the
things you've said here. If I were that neighbor, your explanation
alone would have mollified me.
My two cents.
Write a letter assuming responsibility ONLY for the dirt and dirty windows
(you don't want them to make it bigger), state clearly that you are going to
hire a professional (not your jerk friend) to do the clean up and at there
convenience. Leave it the fuck at that and enjoy your house, don't let them
intimidate you to stop doing house chores. In regards to the Dog, remember
it's not the Dogs fault so chill about that, let him bark and call the Cops
or garner evidence if the Dog is causing you to loose value of your
They are numbnuts and I have one asswipe next door too. The damage is done,
it was a mistake, you own responsibility and you want to fix it. Don't get
caught into there hang ups.
Life is too short to sweat the little things.
I can only relate to my experience. I have an asswipe next door neighbor (he
reads this group BTW). When we first moved in (our first house coupled with
watching HGTV) my Wife and I have not stopped working on our property doing
improvements. Another neighbour up the street told us that our next door
neighbour will not like us for trying to make our property look nicer than
his. So maybe the dirt you said was blown over (small you said) is just a
red herring, I just don't see any one getting into hypochondriac fit over
another neighbor trying to do improvements.
Good luck Sir and as someone already said, good fences makes for good
You've apologized - offered restitution - they either accept it or they
don't. Doin't become an "enabler." It's apparent it bothers you and if
they can't see that - then pray for a heavy thunderstorm and let nature
remove the dirt.
Jim Mc Namara
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