What's with all the hats (men) that I see in restaurants? Where did these people learn their manners? It doesn't surprise me to see this on a 35 and under age gent. But gees, some of these guys are way older than me (72) a nd come in with wives that are nicely dressed. Baseball caps? Come on! I realize that I'm old fashioned (still stand up when a lady approaches or leaves a table, or enters a room) but I'm convinced that these very same ge ezers would not have worn a hat indoors 30 years ago, but they do today. W hat has happened?
Chefs and waiters wear hats. At one time, hats were worn for protection from sun, cold, rain, and dirt. It seemed unsanitary to wear one at dinner. That's not a problem with a hat that's obviously clean.
In western movies, cowboys often wore their dirty hats at the table. That was probably realistic. If the establishment didn't have a hat-check girl, somebody might walk off with their Stetson while their back was turned. I don't recall eating at a restaurant with a staff member to guard hats. Unless there's an empty seat, there may be no place to put a hat.
A ball cap has little purpose but to shade the eyes. If you're low on Vitamin A, light will bother your eyes. Vegetables and pills provide precursors to Vitamin A. The first step to conversion is to eat them with fats. Doctors have been telling us to avoid fats for 50 years; so it stands to reason that a lot of people these days would be uncomfortable without shade for their eyes.
In May of 1958, Marion Morrison attended a bullfight in Nogales. He wore elevator shoes, a girdle, and a cowboy hat. When the crowd cheered, he stood and tipped his hat. Then he realized he'd forgotten his wig. The crowd went wild. In public, never take your hat off.
Change is just change, not necessarily an improvement. I'm old fashioned too and I'd never wear a hat at the table. IMO, it looks ill mannered.
I also rarely wear a ball cap. Only in the rain. In the sun I'll wear a Panama hat and in the winter a Driving Cap.
Coupled with that is the ability to speak and not use curse words. My parents have never heard me use the F word, but today, young people use it in most every sentence. Women too. Yeah, it is just a word, but I still think it uncouth in normal conversation. A well placed curse is good punctuation, but should ber used on rare occasions whee it has real meaning.
When I was 5 or 6, a couple of times I mentioned sweating to my father. He snapped back, "Perspire! Animals sweat! People perspire!"
I don't know what animals except horses, sweat. There had been horses on the streets when he'd been my age. I guess calling a person sweaty was like calling the person a horse.
Profane words show disrespect for the listener. It's a matter of consensus, which depends on time and place. In the US, "ass" is no longer profane. The current UK list isn't quite the same as the US list. Synonyms for profanity are perfectly acceptable.
When my niece was growing up, her parents, who considered themselves quite educated, used profanity on her and on each other in her presence. That disgusted me. It amounted to saying, "I win because I disrespect you." It certainly wasn't necessary to use profanity on her. In case of an important difference of opinion about what she should or shouldn't do, I could win by my endless enthusiasm for arguing, like Sergeant Carter convincing Gomer Pyle.
Once when she was 12, I found her watching TV more than an hour after her bedtime because her parents weren't paying attention. I reminded her. She replied with the F word. I'd never heard her use profanity before. I didn't make an issue of it. She'd have to decide whether to follow her parents' example. I never again heard her use profanity.
Profanity isn't profane in the Marines because voicing disrespect isn't offensive. A friend was a drill instructor at Parris Island during his
12 years in the Marines. He and other drill instructors called their gunnery sergeant the Deacon because he never used profanity. They were afraid of him because he didn't need profanity to make a guy feel like two cents if he'd done something wrong.
I wish the only thing I had to worry about is what people wear on their heads, and when / where they wear them!
In the real world, we all have needed home and auto repairs, health issues, relationships to deal with, money matters, and so on..... At the end of an often "difficult" day, if I go to a restaurant, I go there to EAT. Not to get annoyed by what someone has on top of their skull!
Yea, some people do look stupid the way they dress, and backward baseball caps look assinine, but who cares. No one is harmed!
And by the way, what does this OFF TOPIC post have to do with home repair?
I was thinking along the same lines after reading the above. Styles and fads will always change but mannerism should never go out of style, unfortunately, I see it is.
Hats are worn in restaurants, men no longer open doors nor stand up for women and I seldom hear "no thank you" or "yes please" anymore. I blame the "ME" society. We live in a selfishly inconsiderate world we're most people don't give a shit about anyone but themselves. It's such a shame.
Hat or cap? I wear cap pretty much head losing hairs makes me feel chill, LOL! But I take it off indoor. Regarding treating ladies, I still open and close the door of my car when she goes some place with me. Old habit never dies.
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