On Mon, 12 Oct 2009 21:20:17 +0100, Steve Walker wrote:
It's terribly hard to work out the "reward" some times. I suspect you
might have missed what your eldest was treating as a reward for the
paddys. It could be something like leaving the shop before finishing
what you went there for, as they didn't like that shop for some
I think the keys are not to give in once you have said no(*) and if
you make a threat be prepared to carry that threat out. So don't make
threats you can't carry out! It only takes one or two threats not to
be carried out for the child to come to the conclusion that threats
are harmless and can be sfely ignored.
(*) At least not as a direct result of throwing a paddy or other
unacceptable behaviour. Tell them that if they calm down behave
nicely for a pewriod of time they might (don't tell them the will or
promise they will) get what they want or some other reward.
On Mon, 12 Oct 2009 23:00:56 +0100 (BST), Dave Liquorice wrote:
The only difference it made was that he was told off instead of praised. We
still finished the shopping, as we needed it, but he lost his treat
(usually a magazine). Further punishments (loss of dessert and going
straight to bed after his meal) followed if he didn't calm down and behave
We tried offering rewards for good behaviour, we tried witholding things
for bad, we tried threats of being sent straight to bed on our return home
(and carried it out repeatedly). No matter what, he just seemed unable to
stop the bad behaviour. He's still extremely stubborn and self-willed
today, but much better behaved.
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