or Exchange...
Why are you finding it so difficult to understand a simple sentence like:
"Its quite common for the default setup on many mail servers to only accept either SSL or STARTLS connections now. "
For the avoidance of doubt, I do mean all servers, and not just SMTP relays. In "all servers" I include POP3, IMAP, Exchange, and SMTP. Only two of those can be relays.
Many ISPs and email hosts will only accept secure connections by default. MS do it with hosted 365 and Exchange mail accounts, as does Google, Rackspace and many other large mail hosts.
(you may recall your own difficulty accessing a Gmail account from Thunderbird for this very reason)