Don and I skipped all that. Got married at the Honolulu courthouse then threw a party for 200$ starting tab at the Pearl Harbor Acey-Deucy club. Had a simple honeymoon in a decent hotel in Waikiki. Don wore his uniform and I opted to get myself a simple white dress that I knew I'd wear at other times (IE: not obviously a 'wedding dress, just a pretty white one).
Frankly we didn't have the money and the family couldn't afford to come out (nor could we afford to fly them in).
Smile, 35 years ago. Still going strong!