Long ago, I bought a bed, at Costco, which was simply
a metal adjustable rail with wheels, a bedspring mattress,
and a top mattress.
I'm happy with that, but the one thing I don't like is
that the top mattress is not reversible.
I have a relative staying for a few months, so, I'm buying
only the second bed in my life, and I wonder if you have
advice so I don't screw up again?
My sister bought one of those memory foam mattresses that are supposed
to be so good. It was heavy as sin, and she found she just didn't like
it because it gave her back aches in the morning. Also, she found that
she sank into it and it was hard for her to turn over. We all get aches
and pains laying in the same position for too long, and a natural
reaction is to turn over. Memory foam mattresses make that hard to do
because you feel like you're trying to roll uphill out of a hole.
So far as I know, mattresses only come in about 5 standard sizes, and as
long a you buy a mattress that's the same size as your box spring, you
should be fine.
Evidently she had the wrong type of memory foam. They come in softer
and harder varieties and we chose the firmer style with gel.. Yes,
they are a bit harder to turn in, but I sleep better in the same
position longer and no longer have a sore back in the morning.
We had a king size for years and like it. My wife has surgery last
year so I gave away the king size and bought two twins that are
motorized. Wow, they are fantastic. You can put your head or feet up
as desired. When she had to stay in bed I hated staying with her to
watch TV or even read in the old bed. Now, at the touch of a button,
the head and feet come up and I'm as comfortable as a recliner. At
sleep time, just push the button and it goes flat.
Taste varies, but we love the memory foam beds. This is ours.
Thanks for the 'heads up' on that memory mattress.
I recently bought a few sets of twin bed size for daybeds and guests. I
went to a reputable outlet having sales and wheedled away but am happy
bought simple frames and those THICK mattresses that put you almost 3 feet
in the air. Warmer on cold days and feels luxurious, sitting up so high.
An important note, Ever since the banning of DDT, be sure to buy the
'bedbug' proof wrapper that goes on your mattress, else you can be in for
one piece of hell, and not your fault, or even that much a fault of your
relative. I mean the high quality wrapper, not the cheap one. In my case
I got the wraps all free. ...I told you a lot of wheedling.
Bill Gill;3307123 Wrote:
> On 11/11/2014 7:17 AM, RobertMacy wrote:-
Why is that?
My thought would have been that for older people, higher beds make it
easier for them to both get into and out of bed, just like a higher
toilet seat makes it easier for them to both sit down and get up. Ditto
for chairs and sofas. The lower the chair or sofa seat, the harder it
is to get out of that seat.
This old person seconds your opinion ;)
Might add that older friend has a memory foam mattress.
Said he got a firm one, he likes it, but it does feel a little funny
when changing position. Personally, I would not get one.
Bingo. If they're likely to get up on their own and fall down, or roll
out in their sleep, the only options are active restraints (tying them
into the bed) passive restraints (side bars on the bed) or lowering
the bed to near floor level. Since restraints tend to make people
struggle to get out even more, lowering the bed is a better solution.
Not optimum, since getting up and on their feet is then a problem, but
at least they haven't got far to fall if they do roll over and off the
There's a potential gold mine for the designer of a bed frame with
pressure sensors that would automatically lower itself when the
occupant reclines and raises itself when the occupant gets off the
mattress. Best of both worlds then - easy to get in, hard to fall out of.
Huh? No, that can't be the reason.
My mother is 94 years old. She doesn't fall out of bed.
Not when she's sober, which is a good part of the time.
Besides, there is a paralysis that occurs in people when they're asleep
that prevents them from moving in their sleep. People having dreams
about being chased or attacked experience that paralysis in that they
find they are unable to move no matter how hard they try. Some
psychologist believe that this paralysis is the result of our ape
ancestors sleeping in caves or in trees to prevent being attacked by
wild animals in their sleep. That defence mechanism evolved because if
a person moved in their sleep as a result of a dream, they could end up
falling out of a tree or falling off a cliff. I just don't know what
that sleep paralysis is called, but I know it exists.
It seems to me that that sleep paralysis would keep us from falling out
of bed just as it kept our distant ancestors from falling out of trees.
There are different kinds of sleep. My understanding is that paralysis
only occurs in what's called "deep sleep", which is the most restful
sleep where you dream the most.
Your wife may very well be suffering from a variety of sleep disorders,
some of which I suffer from myself. I took part in a sleep disorders
study earlier this year with about 20 other insomniacs. They hooked up
about 20 electrodes to my face, head, arms and legs to monitor my
breathing, my arm and leg movements, my eye movements and everything
else you can think of. Up until then I had been a terrible insomniac
and had to take prescription drugs to get to sleep.
They found that I moved my leg while I was trying to get to sleep as a
result of a disorder called RLS, or Restless Leg Syndrome, which is
actually very common amongs insomniacs. It's where you just have to
move your leg at and below the knee, and the compulsion to do that keeps
people awake while they're trying to get to sleep.
They also found that I had Sleep Apnea, which is where your breathing
passageway collapses to block off your breathing channel. So, I would
continuously be waking up as a result of my suffocating for air, and
then breathing normally for a few minutes before the air passage
collapsed again, so that I'd wake up again, and this would go on all
As a result of that sleep disorder study, I was put on something called
a "CPAP machine" which stands for "Constant Positive Air Pressure
machine". It's basically an air pump that inflates my breathing air
channel so that it stays inflated and open so that sleep apnea doesn't
Since I started using that CPAP machine I sleep like a baby. I go to
bed, and it seems like two minutes later I'm waking up in the morning,
and I very seldom ever remember my dreams anymore. All of those are
good indications of a night of deep and restful sleep. The not
remembering dreams part is because I come out of deep sleep properly.
You typically only remember your dreams if you're awaken for some reason
during deep sleep. Everything is still in your short term memory banks,
and you remember what you were thinking. If you come out of deep sleep
normally, your brain throws out all that stuff before you regain
You should tell your wife that moving during sleep is an indication that
she's not enjoying deep sleep, and that a CPAP machine might help her as
much as it's helped me. Here in Manitoba it's covered by our Provincial
Medicare program, so I expect it would be covered by whatever health
plan you and your wife are under too. Certainly, she should speak to a
sleep clinic doctor and be tested because most people don't realize how
much their sleep can be corrected if they're willing to be tested for
But, definitely, movement during sleep is a sign that she's not getting
truly restful sleep.
After 35 year of using one,
Nothing is better than a water bed. No bedbugs, no dust mites, great
body support, never needs to be turned, perfect temperature year-round.
Burp it when the bedding is laundered, 8 oz of algicide yearly - no
further maintenance required.
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