On Tue, 9 Dec 2003 22:28:12 -0500, snipped-for-privacy@his.com (Ladd Morse) brought forth from the murky depths:
Wax on, wax off, Grasshoppah. Simple and straightforward.
Care should be used in removing the wax. Try some naphtha first. I believe it's safer on varnish. OTOH, you might try leaving it on and seeing how it wears. You might find it OK if you're not slobs at the table, leaving wet chunks of food on it for hours or days at a time. Married people seldom have that problem, but I've had roommates (eons ago) who wanted to live like that. ;)
Another alternative is a steel wool lube. I've heard about it but never used it. This article says Murphy's oil soap can work and that would keep you from having to use solvents on the fresh finish.
Oil finishes are one of few exceptions to the rule for both application and buffing.
You're better off always working wood -with- the grain.
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