Modern non-integrated dishwasher have nice buttons too. The difference is that you don't have to second guess what you did before you closed the door, it tells you what it's doing. The problem we've had is that with a delayed start how do you tell you've set the delay correctly? Also how does anyone know if the machine is running or not if it's at a quiet point in the cycle?
Yes, it's balanced but the door still has a lot of inertia (i.e. mass), when it swings down it bangs on those hinges whether you like it or not. A non-integrated door simply has much less mass and doesn't do so much damage.
... don't have to be white.
Do you make the hob look as if it's part of the worktop? Or make the cupboards look like the walls? Why not?