I hate to tell you this, and I know it will hurt (Sorry). If you like aerators, you lack testosterone, and thus you are NOT a man. Your wife is probably right, YOU ARE GAY !!!! (Sorry, I knew this would hurt).
Be a MAN, remove the sucker...... Your balls will firm up and your dick will grow at least 4 inches overnight. The bad part is that your wife will probaly leave you, and you wont be able to use your new dick and balls !!!! :)