OT: To Charlie; I just want to take this opportunity..

[madgardener1]

I just want to take this opportunity to "publically" apologize to Charlie who sent me the incredible music cd's and who I have broken an unwritten rule about screwing up and sending a cartoon without making sure everyone was completely Bcc. in the address header portion of the e-mail. After his rant at me (justified of course) and his accusations that I'd betrayed a trust (that was a hurt, I'd NEVER do that deliberately, and even at 56, I still make mistakes) I've done as he's requested of me. I've deleted his address from my computer. I've sent all his replies to the trash and emptied it from my computer, ran a virus scan that came up squeeky clean, and found the cd's he sent me and mailed them back to him and crossed out his address in my garden friends part of my snail mail garden book. I can't do any better unless I just stop communicating altogether, and I like too many of the gardeners here to just stop. But I can just get e-mails and stuff sent innocently from long time gardening friends I've known now for 14 years and trust them still and just not share anymore. Keep them to myself, and only send JPG's that have been resized and only gardening updates and only post from here or Garden Web in the future..

It was a hurt for me to think he was so angry at me for something I didnt' deliberately do, especially when I was so careful to make sure what I sent was Bcc........so I just won't do it anymore. period. and I've probably pissed him off by responding back that I'd do all that he asked and he didn't want me to respond. but I am too caring and considerate in the first place. And if he deleted my efforts to do what he asked and apologize, then he might see it here, instead. where he can lurk and ignore me completely as he's entitled to do. I feel bad enough as it is. But I will get over it. His kindness to send me that music was something that I appreciated when my life was falling apart and I was losing everything around me. I never took that kindness for granted. Not with how I revere music. (as well as my gardening, it's been my salvation and muse, which is another reason James and I are cut from the same cloth!)

maddie (madgardener) still plugging along, looking for a home of her own to garden madly in with her hubby, James somewhere in Tennessee. zone 7a Sunset zone 36 (for now)

[Bill]

The mass of blackbirds depended on the fresh water I provided. Some like it so much that they rallied a thousand more. The amount turned them into pests. Luckily a loner that stays about did not go with the flock. Guess it is easy to spook and fly some where. Seems harder to do things as an individual. This with boat tailed grackles.

Bill

[Charlie]

You are making an assumption based upon reading one side of this issue, an issue which should *not* have gone public in this forum, which is basically the issue with which I have a huge problem...public discussion and acknowlegement of communications that are private, something that I made clear from the beginning, is unacceptable to me.

I had this same go-around last year, ongroup, with Ann R, after she publically announced my private communications with this same person who now once again discusses offchannel things that I have requested to remain private, namely never mentioning publically anything done or said offgroup. This is apparently not important to some, but it is to me, for whatever reasons *I* determine.

There was no reason, other than her apparent inordinate need for attention, for this issue to have come up ongroup, since this information was also conferred to me privately, but not with the distortion of and addition to what I actually said and the portrayal of my request as angry and a rant.

Charlie

[Charlie]

:-)

[Billy]

I guess I missed this posting, but when I think of ostentatious, I think of Rev. Ted Haggard or Joe McCarthy. Maddie could have born her hair shirt and ashes in private, but she chooses to wear them in public, hmmm. I know nothing of this private matter and wonder at its' exhibition.

My 72 slot germination tray is sanitized, as is my potting soil. Saturday, my '09 garden will begin.