The weirdest things happen. I found the red flat pancake thing under the top cover on the boiler, along with a valve with a wire going to the pressure gauge - I had a poke around, but I didn't touch anything switch/button like. I checked upstairs in the airing cupboard, no sign of leaks, and the expansion vessel upstairs didn't look like it had been touched in ages (covered in dust), didn't see a valve (although there must have been one somewhere).
The boiler was burning away, pressure was approaching 3bar again - I went outside to check the pressure relief pipe, which appeared to have been dripping at some point (slightly wet). Went back in and the boiler pressure had dropped to 1 bar and the heating was off (boiler themostat). I adjusted the boiler themostat, which kicked the boiler back in, turned it down, it cut out as expected. At this point I noticed an 'orange' glowing light from the control board, which I don't remember seeing before but I might have just missed it.
Anyway, the boiler now appears to be ok - cold pressure settles at 1 bar, running pressure is just above 1.5 bar. I have no idea what happened, maybe poking around (and moving the cover) fixed something, or there was a blockage somewhere that's now gone. The pump now appears to run once the boiler themostat cuts out, which I definitely couldn't hear before (and neither could the BGas man the other week). Perhaps I've got a faulty control board?
I wish I had a nice simple heating system!
Thanks for the help.
Alan.