I agree that it's uncommon for the funeral home to pocket donations, but
the family is undoubtedly aware of that obituary and would have approved
it. It could be that the family can't fully afford the cost of burying
Katie, and has asked that donations be made to the funeral home to cover
Katie's final expenses. I can see a funeral home doing that if they
were aware of the family's difficult financial situation. It's obvious
that Miller's is doing this funeral on a different basis than they
My father passed away several years ago, and the total cost including
the casket, headstone, viewing at the funeral home the evening prior to
the funeral, church services on the day of the funeral, funeral home
services (such as flower arrangements and limousines), rental of a hall
and catering of sandwiches and coffee at the hall after the funeral, ran
very close to $10,000. That cost didn't cover the double plot of ground
in the cemetery which cost about $4,000 IIRC.
And, that funeral was done relatively inexpensively. If we had
purchased a more expensive casket and flowers, and better food by the
caterers, it could have easily run to $15,000. But, I recall talking
about that with my dad when I was young, and we both agreed that
spending money on a lavish funeral for a person was a waste of money.
The person on whom the money is being spent won't benefit in the least
from the better quality wood in the coffin or the more expensive
flowers. They'd have been better off to spend that extra money on
themselves while they were still alive.