This was a friend of my niece. I don't have any details about her
The web site says..........
In lieu of flowers, donations are requested to Miller Funeral Home to
help with Katies expenses.
Without bothering to ask anyone that might know, I am thinking out
loud that a funeral home would not usually assume the cost of a burial
with the expectation of covering the costs with donations.
I think it is nice that people are given a chance to donate to her
expenses, but what happens to the money that comes in after the
burial? I would hope that it goes to the family and not the funeral
I seriously doubt the funeral home is "assuming the cost" of the
funeral/burial. It generally written as donations to _who/whatever_
care of the funeral home rather than to the funeral home. No way I'm
donating _to_ the funeral home; they'll have to clean that up before I'm
a sucker even if was best friend or family...
that's normal. Donating to a charity instead of flowers.
What the OP is saying is not normal, is donations being made to the
funeral home to help cover the cost of the death and funeral,
furthurmore that the funeral home may have covered the cost and will
recuperate it's costs from donations, in lieu of flowers.
This may just be badly worded, too. It is not at all unusual to ask for
donations to a surviving kid's college fund or to help with their
expenses, especially if very young. Most often this will go to a trust
fund of some sort. Could be what they meant to say.... or not.
America is at that awkward stage. It's too late
to work within the system, but too early to shoot
I've never seen seen asked donations made to a funeral home, but have
plenty time seen asked donations made to the remaining family members,
usually called a "trust" or in trust. It happens alot if children are
left without a parent or a disabled widow is left etc...
I would think if it is a reputable funeral home, they would accept the
donations strictly to a pre-arranged amount. Anything over would go to
the family or some other charity.
If the family knows the owner of the funeral home, they may do it "on
the cheap" and accept long term payment or something. I have to
assume the family does not have cash or insurance to cover expenses
and will accept the generosity of friends. I've seen fund raisers
done for that reason.
Where did Fritz say that a family had $500 lying around?
He did mention embalming. That would put some pretty nasty chemicals
into a coffin to sit underground for a few hundred years before
releasing said chemicals.
Typical embalming fluid contains a mixture of formaldehyde,
glutaraldehyde, ethanol, humectants, and wetting agents and other
solvents. The formaldehyde content generally ranges from 5 to 35
percent and the ethanol content may range from 9 to 56 percent.
I agree that it's uncommon for the funeral home to pocket donations, but
the family is undoubtedly aware of that obituary and would have approved
it. It could be that the family can't fully afford the cost of burying
Katie, and has asked that donations be made to the funeral home to cover
Katie's final expenses. I can see a funeral home doing that if they
were aware of the family's difficult financial situation. It's obvious
that Miller's is doing this funeral on a different basis than they
My father passed away several years ago, and the total cost including
the casket, headstone, viewing at the funeral home the evening prior to
the funeral, church services on the day of the funeral, funeral home
services (such as flower arrangements and limousines), rental of a hall
and catering of sandwiches and coffee at the hall after the funeral, ran
very close to $10,000. That cost didn't cover the double plot of ground
in the cemetery which cost about $4,000 IIRC.
And, that funeral was done relatively inexpensively. If we had
purchased a more expensive casket and flowers, and better food by the
caterers, it could have easily run to $15,000. But, I recall talking
about that with my dad when I was young, and we both agreed that
spending money on a lavish funeral for a person was a waste of money.
The person on whom the money is being spent won't benefit in the least
from the better quality wood in the coffin or the more expensive
flowers. They'd have been better off to spend that extra money on
themselves while they were still alive.
On Sunday, April 14, 2013 12:29:37 AM UTC-4, nestork wrote:
No way. It can't be something practical and logical like that.
This is a huge conspiracy masterminded by Barack Obama to take all our freedoms
and wealth through donations to the funeral home. Then he will send out his
goons with their 16 billion hollow point bullets to execute us all.
Leave it to government to tug on our heart strings.
Christopher A. Young
Learn more about Jesus
No way. It can't be something practical and logical like that.
This is a huge conspiracy masterminded by Barack Obama to take all our
freedoms and wealth through donations to the funeral home. Then he will send
out his goons with their 16 billion hollow point bullets to execute us all.
Many people are buried in the US and elsewhere without any embalming.
AIUI this may make viewing impossible (or at least repugnant).
And it may mean that the burial has to be relatively soon, but not I
think if the weather is not hot or if the body is refrigerated most of
the time before the funeral. Which iiuc is often the case anyhow.
Often, a funeral home will tell the family that embalming is required
by law, but they are usually or always lying when they say that.
Last I heard, cardboard caskets are available from Wal-Mart, but I can
imagine a funeral home refusing to use one. I wonder if any funeral
homes sell them. I don't know if caskets are really required or not.
More than one body can be buried in the same grave. Even with a
wooden casket, one can bury an additional person roughly every 20 or
25 years I think it is. Maybe some cemeteries don't permit this or
it would be more popular.
Maybe not. Apparently t hat would be a violation of the law, though it
turn out to be necessary to remind them of that.
"Be prepared for some resentment from the mortician at losing a big
slice of the funeral profit if you obtain a casket elsewhereyour
right to do so is protected by federal law." " Note: The funeral home
may NOT add a "handling fee" if you purchase a casket on your own."
"A few statesLouisiana, Oklahoma, and Virginiawith strong funeral
industry lobbies, do not permit anyone other than a mortician to sell
a casket or coffin. A few brave souls are trying to buck the funeral
boards in those states. Look for folks selling or building "hope
chests" as there is no law in any state to keep you from using one to
move a body."
I was actually considering making my own casket for fun. That is, I
need a woodworking project. My uncle built a chest big enough for a
body when he was in highschool, and my mother used it for a long time
to store things. But my house is full and I have no room for it.
Normal practice over here in the UK.
But see this for days of yore.
In some countries, these can be visited.
It's quite common over here for people to be buried in wicker coffins
as environmentally friendly.
You can bury someone in your garden too.
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