I've actually had that same thought come to mind... He does help, on occasion, but he figures that since he's the one that works now, he shouldn't have to do everything around the house.
Yes, although I'm not sure 'mature' goes hand in hand with him at times. He hounds the boys to take their dishes from the table after meals - very good habit to get into, AFAIC, yet *I* pick up his dishes, which drives me mad. If I point it out as he's leaving the table, I'm nagging. I've left his dirty plate on the table until the next meal and then I end up just picking it up anyways (about 50% of the time) I also refuse to pick up his laundry. I make a call about laundry before I start to sort and do it - I round up mine and the baby's clothes, the boys have to have ALL their dirty clothes in the baskets provided in their rooms or they don't have clean clothes and the same for DH, but he usually doesn't pick up his clothes. If I do clearly look swamped with everything around the house, he DOES help, but that seems to be when I'm at the point of desperation. He then just goes and does MAJOR cleaning on his own and gets it done fast with a, "See? It didn't take long and wasn't hard!" - try that with 3 little ones running behind you!
Hired help is kind of out of the question, as there's not enough money to hire someone to do what needs to always be done! lol I am thinking, though, to swallow my pride and see if my mom is available one day to help me get everything in order... Sort through what is needed and what isn't, toss, give away, garage sale whatever is garbage, unwanted, not used... I look around and wonder what's going on around here! There's just too much stuff for this little space, but I'm sure a lot of it could go and not be missed.
ANY suggestions would probably help! It's a nut house here, and I can live with most things, generally, as the 'perfect' home will be saved for when the kids move out lol, but at times, it gets so out of hand.