Hmm, not sure if a vapor barrier is needed. Make sure to look at the manufacurer's recommendations. Wood directly on concrete is generally not good.
The self leveler will work fine. Just make sure the concrete is clean and free of dust before applying it. Make sure you vacuum the concrete well before starting the install.
A hand scraper is all you need. There are ones that have extension poles so you don't have to kneel. Just scrape off whatever you can. As long as there are no ridges you'll be fine.
Can't help you on this one. My guess is if it looks good and feels stable then it's OK.