1992 dodge caravan 260,000 miles breaking in nearly every way. friday
the transmission started going
mother in-law comes to visit. how many glaots start this way?????
tells my wife "we talked about it and we want to buy you a new car, do
you know what you want?".........and here we go......2004 silverado
extended cab 4x4 Z71 with towing and power package as well as the load
of other stuff......
i am soooo happy i can't beleive it!!!! oh and the other great part
my wife said to me "that is your new car its too showy for
me".......someone please wake me up...on second thought dont!!
i guess really it is only slightly OT gloat beacuse you can haul
lumber and tools right?
so we are off to buy it tonight =)
Sounds great, but they have your balls in a vice for the REST OF YOUR LIFE!
Can you hear it now?
wife: "Lets go on vacation with my mom and dad"
you: "I don't think thats a good idea"
wife: "its the least we can do, they DID buy you a new truck!"
No thanks, I like to buy my own vehicles and keep my balls in tact.
This all depends on the attitude of the giver. And the receiver. (Since we
know how the receiver feels about it <g> I'll just talk about the giver
I know of *large* gifts (like new cars) that came with *absolutely**no*
strings attached. On the flip side, I know of small gifts that were
positively dripping with obligation. The size of the gift really doesn't
Look at the situation from the parents-in-law point of view. Suppose their
daughter and her husband are important to them. Suppose they don't want to
go to a funeral because these important people were driving a worn-out POS.
Suppose they're well enough off that writing the check doesn't affect their
retirement. On the cynical side, suppose they are reducing the inheritance
taxes by gifting away money now while they're alive. Why not write the
check if everyone's cool about it?
When I was in high school I was going to the state basketball tourney about
350 miles away. My wheels (owned by dad) were on a marginal Pinto. When I
got home there was a new bottom-of-the-line Mercury Comet in the drive. He
didn't want me driving a marginal car 700+ miles, and he had the $ to make
To me this is a similar situation. Major gloat IMO. ;-)
BTW, this bothered the h*ll out of me at the time. None of my friends
families were able to do that. Everyone else was carpooling down in their
semi-POS's. And the Comet was no more cool than the Pinto.
It took me years to learn to give and receive graciously. America is the,
"I Did It Myyyyyy Waaaaaaay!" culture. In other cultures large gifts from
one generation to the next are more common.
<<snippage about the in-law's buying a dude a car>>
Minor correction...they MIGHT have his balls in a vice forever.
If they do, chances are that they are the type of people that already HAVE
his balls there.
If, on the other hand, the in-law's are like mine, the gift would have been
absolutely string free. (And yes, that would be a drive-by)(no pun
If it had been my ex-in-law's, well, let's just say that I would not have
taken the truck since I like my balls right where they are.
And it's possible that they may just be spreading the estate before probate
can get its greedy hands on it, too.
On 16 Jan 2004 05:21:35 -0800, firstname.lastname@example.org (crk133) wrote:
I personally think borrowing or accepting mega-gifts from the parents
or in-laws changes the taste of Thanksgiving dinner. It's not like it
hasn't come up on occasion, as both sets of parents have done quite
well in life.
My wife and I have GREAT relationships with my parents and in-laws.
I've often thought that standing on our own two feet has a lot to do
with it. Our siblings have accepted such help, and have vastly
different relationships with their parents. One of my wife's
sisters lives with the in-laws, with her eight year old son,
constantly complaining that she isn't treated like an adult.
I have done work for the in-laws, the latest job being custom made
cabinet doors I let them buy the materials. After the job was
complete, they thanked me with a Woodcraft gift certificate, which I
If you currently have a great car, and they offered to buy you an even
nicer model, things might be different. You are driving a crap-box,
they're worried about you, so they feel that they are helping you out.
They're bailing you out, dude.
Enjoy your new truck.
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