Sun, Feb 17, 2008, 2:32am (EST-3) firstname.lastname@example.org (Charlie Self)
<snip> The whole thing strikes me as a backward step, <snip> JOAT...if you get a call at 6:30 a.m., it ain't me.
I'd have said dumb, but amounts to the same.
Heh, no one has my number. Anyway, doesn't matter what time anyone
calls, my cell phone hasn't been turned on for probably a couple of
weeks - and that was only so I could check a couple of settings.
Seems someone mentioned texting is handy in a meeting. If you're
texting it means you aren't paying attention to the meeting. And, if
you need to receive text in a meeting, means you weren't prepared for
the meeting. I used to get caught in mandatory "meetings", often
lasting an hour. I'd sit thru all the drivel, then listen to about 2-3
sentences that actually applied to me. They'd have been a lot better
served by letting me work during that time, and just stopping by my desk
and telling me, or handing me a note. But that wouldn't have made them
feel important. The rest it was the same, it would have made a lot more
sense, and much less time, to just pass the infor along on an individual
basis. No input was requested very often, just output. Apparently, the
meetings were meant as sort of a pep rally, or something. I was never
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The credit card back door doesn't bother me so much as the lack of child
support, student loans, credit card debt, first and last months rent,
dependants, and other real life issues that keep the poor, poor. If I
could've started from zero after college, I'd be doing pretty well right
now. Instead, 10 years later I still owe 40,000 in student loans and am
still paying credit cards that I haven't used since graduation. And I don't
spend frivolously. I don't even own a biscuit joiner for Christ's sake!
It's not like I bought a Domino with my grocery money!
There, we're back on topic ; )
I think almost all of these situations are self imposed. Kids are getting
pregnant and the father (when known) has no means of supporting the child.
The easy solution is to prevent pregnancy. Sutdent loans? No one is forced
totake them out so when you graduate and get that 80k job, make the
payments. You could have gone into the trades and made a good living
without the loans. Credit card debt is 100% self imposed. I can't speak
for the first and last month rent thing as I've never paid rent. I bought
my first house when I was 20 years old. Oh, I did have dependents at that
time also, but they were not children. I supported my mother and
Evidently you valued your education enough to spend the money for it. I'd
hope to recoup my college costs by getting a job that pays well in the
future. If someone decides to spend a lot of money for education to become
a social activist in a low paying job, that is there choice also. I went to
a low cost state school and only took courses as I could afford to do so.
Rather than live in a college dorm, I lived in my own house that was bought
with my own money. We have choices.
If you are still paying credit card debt after 10 years you should be
looking into better ways of managing debt. At least you have the backbone to
pay your debts rather that join the bankruptcy craze to bail out of
My hats off to you for all of this but I suspect that you had a
different upbringing from most people, or perhaps an unusual degree of
aptitude in some area in which most people are lacking.
Many people hope that. Some achieve it.
You really think that someone goes to law school intending to become a
public defender (to take one example)? You take the best offer you
get, if you don't get a good offer then you either take a bad one or
Some people have choices, some don't. You apparently got a pretty
good job early on. How many jobs that good are open to people today
who have only high-school educations?
You check carefully, because there isn't a draft, nor draft physicals, nor
As I said earlier, a self-initializing individual with desire and effort
will find a way, but it's sure difficult, after reading responses, to figure
out why. If you are confident of failure, you'll find it, and if you lack a
way to fail, or an excuse for failure, this bunch will find one for you.
Seems to be symptomatic of our society as a whole; in our rush to be
tolerant, understanding, and compassionate, we have, as a whole, developed
a tolerance and sympathy for failure -- even if that failure is based upon
poor choices made early on or a lack of drive or motivation. That's not
necessarily bad in itself, but the corollary and conclusion that follows is
that those who did not make poor choices but who sacrificed and exhibited
drive and motivation are expected to not only pick up the slack for those
who did not but also to share the fruits of their labors with them as well.
If you're going to be dumb, you better be tough
Paper route, lawn work, painting, dog poo poo pickup, run errands for old
folks, local hauling (furniture, trash, etc), grease monkey (don't have to
be a mechanic to grease cars)
A lot of the problem young people today have is that while growing up they
never learned any skills. By the time my boys reached 14, they could do a
good job washing and waxing a car, changing the oil, paint, do lawn care,
rough carpentry, replace a faucet washer, unclog a drain.
By the time they were 16 they could do the foregoing and: lay bricks &
concrete blocks, build a cabinet, apply roofing shingles and/or roll
roofing, finish concrete,
install ceramic tile, replace faucets.
It might be worth mentioning that they never used drugs, smoked, sprayed
graffiti, or any of the other myriad assortment of troubles young people can
Income? How about a great income if you want to be a handyman type and
build a good reputation. Lots of cash jobs too.
I've know a couple of guys that never had a "job", but always had something
going on and plenty of money. They did not socialize with the Chablis and
brie crowd, but sure make a good living from them.
What has the last 20 years got to do with it. My sons have done so.
I live in El Paso and there are several businesses who do that kind of
business. There are also 2 sisters who borrowed the money to buy a long
wheelbase van which they converted into a pet grooming mobile service. It
wasn't long before they split the business and now they each have a van and
Summer jobs mostly and working as helper for self employed plumbers,
electricians, remodelers etc.
(A little research will reveal that there are lots of self employed who work
on weekends) It got them through college.
Well, J. Clarke, if you're convinced it can't be done, it can't be done.
Plain as that.
Here's a few suggestions. Go to a community college to get the basic courses
(English, Government, Sociology, Math, etc) out of the way.
It's cheaper at the CCs and the credits can be tranferred. The CCs have
plenty of evening and weekend schedules.
Once you're thru the basics, apply for financial help to pay for the tuition
and books at a regular college/university.
Keep in mind that you may have to attend evenings and weekends in order to
hold down a full time job.
It might take a little longer that way but where do you want to go?
I should mention that there has to be a certain amount of desire to
accomplish these things.
Do you do woodworking. Can you build a few things to make some money,
Adirondack chairs, picnic tables, cabinets, . I turn away lots of work
because it's just a hobby with me but the demand seems to be there. If
you're talking about your kids, can you teach them some skills?
I know a guy who builds model trains out of wood and sells them for $300.
Tell me about inflation!! My first "full time" (40 hr week) paid 55 cents
and hour. What's minimum wage today?
No, No. they didn't wait until they were married and had a family to support
before they started working. That's just stupidity in it's purest form.
I know. There are more dog poo pickup services than there are mobile pet
I'm reluctant to cry about how I grew up but here goes.
We lived in a cleaned up chicken coop for awhile. It was 20' X 28'. My
mother was an alcoholic not to mention some other disgusting activities.
My dad, a veteran of WW2, shot himself not long after his discharge.
Most of the time I lived with neighbors, relatives, friends of my mother,
and an assortment of others.
I had paper route at 13, did janitorial work at a beauty shop at 14 while
setting bowling pins evenings at a bowling alley where they didn't yet have
auto pin setters.
At 15, I worked at a Nash auto dealersahip for a guy who was one of the best
bosses I ever had. On weekends I waxed cars for some of the customers of the
dealership. (they "said" they admired my ambition and my quality of work).
At 16, I was driving a Wrecker for the dealership.
I realize that some of those opportunities aren't open to young people today
but there are others for anyone who really wnats to WORK and is not just
looking for a job.
The money for what? Haven't heard of the Job Corp? How come I know of guys
who have just gottne out of prison and get to go to school taking courses in
welding, refrigeration, computer repair ad infinitum.
I'm sorry, my friend, defeatism is contagious. Determination is the key to
Have you even checked to see?
I remember a time when I would scrounge rafter cut-offs from construction
sites to make wooden toys using a coping saw.
Max (that's it for me, your attitude is depressing)
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