Not knowing much about networks with multiple segments I was wondering how an iffy cable/connector could affect more than just that segment. Then I remembered that the poster said the network was fairly heavyly loaded. Thus any retries required to get past the dodgy bit start to slow things down, then buffers start to fill up, and when they do the "stop sending, we are full" starts to propergate across the network... This would obviously be more of a problem with interdevice links than to an individual device.
This probably explains why some people don't have a problem with cheapo couplers and others do. It would only take a short break in network traffic for buffers to empty and the problem not to manifest itself.