Maybe she meant she 'never changed any of these things *routinely* but only when they went wrong'?
I have a mate who hadn't changed the engine oil on his car for over
100,000 miles but it did consume a bit so was done to some degree constantly albeit only partially so.Maybe if an engine is clean burning, lightly loaded and not (therefore) shedding much metal, would a filter not necessarily block after such a time but just become a finer filter?
I know I have repeatedly serviced some engines and found the oil looking (smelling and feeling) pretty clean after quite some use and others where the new oil is very dirty the next day (especially diesels).
Cheers, T i m