On Thursday, June 30, 2016 at 4:48:14 PM UTC-4, email@example.com wrote:
I do not use Facebook, based on a long-ago request from my "kids". They
are all adults now, ranging in age from 23 - 28 and have been on Facebook
since high school. Back then we sat down and discussed the pros and cons
of the internet and specifically Facebook. I trusted my kids back then and
I trust them even more now. They requested that SWMBO and I not join Facebook
so that they could have their privacy. We went along with that request.
All 4 have my kids have become productive adults and, more importantly, good
people. The boys have very good jobs, one daughter just earned a dual-Masters
degree and found a great job even before she graduated. The other daughter
will earn her Masters in 2017 and is already working in the Senior Living
environment, building programs to enhance the lives of *us*, as part of the
We talk all the time via phone, email and text. We are all on great terms
and they have always respected our opinions and advice. We let them have
their Facebook space and it has worked out just fine.
1) You don't need to be in contact with your
family to use facebook. You can be part of a
social circle of neighbors, work associates,
2) I used to have my Father as a FB contact. He
was really impolite about some thing, can't
remember what. And I unfriended him. Of course,
this is the man who used to read letters I had
written, whenever he found them. Such as left
on the kitchen table before I went to the post
office. He'd mark them up with proof readers
marks, and comments. Sounds like you're a lot
more respectful than my Father.
Please consider another father talk with your
kids. Anything posted to FB is public info.
Regardless of privacy settings. Sounds like
your kids need some instruction on how to NOT
post personal information on the computer.
Christopher A. Young
learn more about Jesus
On Wednesday, July 6, 2016 at 9:54:50 AM UTC-4, Stormin Mormon wrote:
Why do you think I need to talk to my kids? What in my original post
indicates that my kids don't understand how Facebook works? Why do you
think that they are posting "personal information on the computer"?
1) Some thing they are posting, they don't want you to see
2) Nothing. What, in my reply, makes you think I said any
thing about your kids knowing how FB works?
3) Because they asked *you* not to be on FB
On Wednesday, July 6, 2016 at 10:52:58 AM UTC-4, Stormin Mormon wrote:
Not true. Wanting their privacy is very different than not wanting us
to see what they post. That might be hard for some to understand, but I
get it. In addition, we have lots of family members, including my
(and SWMBO's) brothers and sisters who are FB friends with my kids. If
my kids were trying to hide things from us, Facebook would not be the
place to do it. They simply asked for some separation and we honored
that request. It's called trust and respect.
I quote: "Please consider another father talk with your
kids. Anything posted to FB is public info. Regardless of
Why would you suggest that I have "another" talk with my
kids and then follow that with an explanation of how Facebook
works unless you thought that they needed it explained to them?
If the talk is not supposed to be about Facebook privacy
settings/issues, just what are you suggesting that I talk to
I will say it sounds a little strange considering the rest of your
family joins in. Aunts and Uncles OK, but keep mom and dad out of this.
We have the opposite. My kids have been after us to join. My wife did
so she can see photos of the grandkids and such, but does nothing else.
I prefer not to join.
I have a sibling who was diagnosed with leukemia ten years ago. She
kept it a secret from everyone in the family except for one sister,
but she shared it on Facebook with her friends and acquaintances. She
slipped up last year and made a cryptic reference to her 'condition'
in a FB post shared with family. After a casual question was asked of
the sister in the know ("So - what's up with Sis?"), she broke down
and let the cat out of the bag. Sister with leukemia has now disowned
us for intruding on her privacy.
Yes, she's nuts.
On Wednesday, July 6, 2016 at 2:30:29 PM UTC-4, Moe DeLoughan wrote:
I hope that you (and the rest of the disowned family) will be there for
her if the need arises. Don't hold her nuttiness against her. Illness and
stress can make us do some weird stuff, but very few of us want to suffer
Hey, if you don't want to take my advice,
that's fine. Why spend post after post
blathering on and on about it? Methinks
thou doth protest too much. If you were
truly comfortable and secure, you could
easily have said no thank you, and been
done with it. Why are you making so much
effort, and changing the subject?
I'm not defending any thing. I'm suggesting
to you that there are other ways to handle
a moment when you don't like a suggestion.
And, no, I will not apologize for making a
sincere suggestion. You may wish to apologize
for goal post shifting, changing the subject,
and taking offense when none was meant.
On Thursday, July 7, 2016 at 12:53:01 AM UTC-4, Stormin Mormon wrote:
Your suggestion was based on your assumption that my kids "need some instruction on
how to NOT post personal information on the computer. " (your words)
That assumption was incorrect. That assumption was also a change of subject.
You are assuming that I took offense. That is another incorrect assumption. I was not offended
by your suggestion, but I do have the right to ask you why you made it. When you give your
reasons, I have the right to point out the error in your thought process. That's called a
You say that I don't want to take your advice. That is also incorrect. It's not that I don't *want*
to take your advice, it's that I don't *need* to take your advice. Your suggestion was based on an
incorrect assumption related to my kids' knowledge of internet privacy issues. You brought it
up, I responded. Again, that's called a conversation.
On Thursday, July 7, 2016 at 8:54:54 AM UTC-4, Stormin Mormon wrote:
Who said I wasn't concerned with what you think? The mere fact that
I have tried to point out the error in your assumption shows that I
care. That certainly doesn't mean I'm offended. Once again, it's called
Why would I consider taking a suggestion that doesn't fit the
You made an incorrect assumption and you made a suggestion based on
that incorrect assumption. All I've tried to do is explain why your
assumption was incorrect. Once again, it's called "conversation".
Thank you for your concern about my time. I don't feel it's been
wasted, but thanks anyway. As far as *your* time, I can't waste that,
only you can. If you consider this conversation to be a waste of your
time, feel free to stop reading my responses and then responding. Only
you have the power to decide how to spend your time.
Yet another goal post shift. You're flailing
around in the dark trying to get some thing to
stick to me. In this case, it's about me, now,
and wasted time. What a pathetic, failed effort.
I make a simple and correct suggestion, and you
waste endless time trying to establish some false
and goofy assertion about it being my problem.
I bet you do this with other people in your life.
When your doctor tries to write you a prescription,
do you spend the next three days trying to get
your doctor to admit that he's mistaken?
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