The code for a door that old can be cracked anyway, and if the theory is that the husband is foolish enough to open the door with his remote, he's foolish enough to crack into it, there's some device you can get that will do that.
The safer thing is get a new GDO or unplug the GDO and operate the door manually. Barring that, the toggle switches on the remote probably correspond to toggle switches someplace on the GDO unit, see how they're set, write them down carefully, and try changing them in both places.