I'm a woman, so what would he be suspicious of?
I don't think that's it. I think the husband is just a nitpicker by habit,
just for the sport of it. Being in someone's house for a couple of weeks
working, you see the inner workings of the "couple" dynamics..I've been in
houses where there is good karma and things go smooth. I've been in houses,
that seemingly look like Mayberry RFD and it's hellish...
I usually try to *train* my clients, because I almost get called back for
more work, and once they know the ropes..decision making, linear thinking,
etc..they feel like they have a hand in the process. All my usual and
customary teachings have gone unheeded in this case. They are friends and
what I offered was to "help" the wife do the work herself. She's energetic
and is a motivated worker. But cannot, cannot make a decision, so comes to
ask me "what do I think?". I tell her, a couple of suggestions...then she
analyzes to death her possible decision. At first she wanted to be a
"neutral, and have nothing bold"..and of course, inexpensive. But now
because I'm not charging for labor, the budget has tripled for the kitchen
The husband, I almost had to wrestle, because he wanted to take out a load
bearing member. We cut a 30 sq ft hole in the wall between the kitchen and
tv room and he claims the remaining load bearing members are "a blind spot".
Duh...what about the big hole where there was none?
I am away from there for a couple of days, so I will use my time to think of
a way to detach, dis-entangle and not encourage further decision
debacles...but I will hopefully finish the work, and hopefully, my goal was
the woman to feel good about doing a lot of it herself, hands on, with some
guidance...what the man thinks, I could care less.