When you consider that you do NOT need to keep appliance like refrigerators & freezers powered 24/7, and that a bit of judicious shifting can save your time & fuel, the size equation changes. The only thing I would run during the day would be heat or A/c with some refrigerator to compensate for regular heat loss.
So in effect my base use is Heat or A/C At the cabin ADD well pump Add to that ONE OF Fridge, freezer , (Cabin) Hot water heater. In the morning and evening, turn off Heat or A/C run Hot water heater and well pump, while doing morning and evening shower & bathroom stuff And that pretty well covers things
If you get an inverter equipped generator you can save some fuel because it will adjust output to demand This is not an issue for occasional / emergency generators But it can be a saving for generators that are for extended use.