My late father, bless his soul, never grasped the concept of just doing
anything for the joy of giving. The ability of knowing how to do welding
and welding something for him, a 5 minute job, and not sending him an
There are such people in the world. Many, in fact.
The real model is this. Life is a balance. You give. You take. You
should be a happy giver, and a silent taker.
It is when this gets out of balance that the stars alter in their orbits.
If one takes too much, or gives too much, things go akilter.
Try to let your relations know that although you do not expect free work,
you at least would appreciate it if they let you silently reciprocate in
some manner. Most craftsmen undervalue their work, unless if on a hard
card or T&M. So, it is morally difficult for them to charge a family member
or friend $200 for a short amount of work, where, on the other hand, they
have no compunction about handing in a ticket for the same or less work.
AND bumping up the hours or amount.
Honesty, communication, and straight up eye to eye dealings are what does
the trick here. After that, you will have to adjust for someone not being
able to be a happy giver, or you will just have to be a silent taker.