It sounds like your obsession might be having or about to have an
impact on your life and marriage. You really need to see a counselor of
some kind. Unfortunately, a random doctor or counselor or psychologist
might know very little about asbestos. The concern here is that they
might not understand how little danger there really is in your
situation, or conversely, be unable to convince you of the fact that
there is little danger in your situation. And worse, it may be hard to
get honest and accurate information by googling for "asbestos", or by
looking up "asbestos" in the phone book, since there are entire
industries devoted to profiting from asbestos-related lawsuits (some of
which are legit, but many of which it has become apparent were bogus to
the point of fraud) , scare tactics, asbestos cleanup, etc. You need
some independent advice...
So here is one suggestion for you. Go to your regular doctor, or a
family doctor that you know and trust. Explain your asbestos concern.
If they are honest, decent, and knowledgable, they will listen to you,
then tell you you have absolutely nothing to worry about. I imagine
this will cost you about $200 or so.
Then find 5 people you know and trust. Preferrably intelligent, honest
people. Some higher education (college or beyond) would be best as well
(for deciphering and understanding the complex/contradictory
information available). Maybe a parent or sibling, a school friend, a
co-worker, etc. Explain your situation to them, tell them it is ruining
your life and marriage, and ask them very sincerely to please help you.
They can do this by looking up information about asbestos on the web,
asking questions here, etc., then reporting back to you. If they are
competent and honest, they will all tell you that you have absolutely
nothing to worry about. This should cost you nothing but some sincere
And if (when) that does not calm your obsession, you can then go to a
phsychiatrist, explain that 5 smart, independent people, plus your
doctor, plus a dozen random people on the internet, all tell you that
you have nothing to worry about, but that you are still obsessed and it
is ruining your marriage. They might be able to help you get over your