I have been following this thread, wondering like everyone else on what is really causing your problem. While I will agree w/ you that the professional openers are built better/stronger as in more durable then some DYI openers I would have to agree that a new opener is not going to solve the problem.
Issues that I can see:
You've had a number of professionals out that can't figure out the problem but you are going to have one of them put in a new opener so it will now be their problem. If they can't figure out the problem now, how are they going to figure it out after you have bought & paid for a new opener? (I don't believe a new opener will solve your problem no matter what one you buy as many others have stated.) Also most installers only give a one year guarantee on labor so after one year it will once again be your problem, will it not?
You said everyone comments on how heavy the door is, but then you say it works smooth & stays open at 4-5 feet. To me this sounds like a contradiction. If the door is balanced properly it should not be heavy off of the floor & the door should pretty much stay at any point you let go of the door (slight drifting is normal) including 2 feet off of the floor. If it drops like a rock from 2 feet the door isn't balanced properly. If the door isn't heavy off of the floor why does everyone comment on how heavy the door is?
You stated that the existing door already has the largest spring available for residential doors. Where did this statement come from because it makes no sense at all to me? The size of the spring is determined by the size of the drums, the weight of the door, the height of the door, & how much room is available on the shaft. So whether the door is a residential door or a commercial door makes no difference & the goal is not to have the largest springs but to have ones that are properly balanced for the weight.
I am totally guessing & going out on a limb, but I would guess that your door feels like a ton of bricks as it comes off of the floor & it is this excessive weight that has been causing your problems & will continue to do so until the door is balanced properly.
Doordoc